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User Topic: New Man finale
cmego
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For those friends who were cheering me on after finally meeting a decent guy…the finale…

We were in contact this week, but he really pulled back after our last phone call. I finally received a very nice email from him where he apologized for his behavior, told me how wonderful I am and that if the timing had been different, this would be a different ending. He wanted to see where this would go too. But he is deploying quicker than we planned, wants to spend the last few weeks with his dd and just has nothing to give a relationship right now.

I wished him well, and told him when things calmed down for him I would be happy to consider a pen-pal type friendship.

I had already pulled him off of my FB, deleted all emails and removed him from my phone so I would not be tempted to contact him.

I let him come to me, and he did.

I'm going to take a little time to just process this. It went from great to break up in less than a week. I am sad because he is a good man, the first I could actually see a future with...but I'm also happy that I DID finally meet a decent guy on OLD.

I took a risk and I don't regret it. If we come back together in the future, I would welcome it, but if I never hear from him again, I know I will be perfectly fine and moving forward.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4033 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Cmego))

I'm glad that you're ok with it.

Not all endings are bad.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Cmego)))


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes timing sucks. Onward.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17165 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/j

Faith: most clear and succinct 3 word answer EVER.

End t/j


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
better4me
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you are okay. (Hell, you know what? You're more than okay, you're freaking awesome!)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3011 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((cmego)))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Going to have to grieve for a bit. But, I think I should take the time and just be thankful…going to send him positive thoughts because I know how hard this deployment is for him, find my lesson in here somewhere.

Going back on OLD isn't appealing right now, so I know I need to take some time and just BE.

Eating ice-cream tonight whilst studying for a research project and trying to forget he was supposed to be here for the weekend with me.

Onward.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4033 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((cmego)))

I have a feeling this isn't the last you'll be hearing from him. I hope things turn out as you'd like.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with phmh and FaithFool both.

And I know what you mean about feeling almost encouraged just to have met someone, even if it didn't work out.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys rock.

Saw this on UpWorthy, and just how I am feeling. "Thank Love for stopping by…"

http://www.upworthy.com/a-beautiful-explanation-of-the-differences-between-the-fantasy-of-love-and-the-reality-of-love?c=ufb2


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4033 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((cmego)))

I think it is premature to call it "finale" ... Well, ok. There could be a sequel. I think the grown up way you left it and the positive energy you are giving the process leaves it very open for another chapter.

Grieve. Take the time. You are loved.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5611 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
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