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User Topic: I know my worth
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been dating someone for just 2 months and it is my first venture into the dating world since asking the ex to leave 3/2010.
He calls me on almost daily basis but in the last 3 weeks does not have time to see me. Keeps telling me about how tied up he is and unavailable. We live 4 miles away from each other. His children are grown. I do point out that I have a life too.
I do not expect to be anyone's #1 priority because I will always put my children first. Also school, career etc. But I should be in somewhere the top 25 priority list.
I am not angry, annoyed or bothered. I told him in a friendly voice that he should call me when he has time to see me. I meant it. Think he did not really hear me. Oh well.
I will never take a back seat again. I will never allow myself to be treated as an after thought.

He steps up I will see him again. If not, his loss. Damn New Beginnings is so empowering!


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1587 | Registered: Mar 2004
somer222
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! You handled this situation very well.

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 4:02 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bravo!

It's great you can recognise when someone isn't maintaining your boundaries.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1284 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
cmego
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is very empowering to say, "I deserve better" and walk away. :) Good for you.

I call it "the art of letting go".


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4033 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I call it "the art of letting go"

Exactly!! After hanging on to my marriage like a drowning person clinging to a sinking ship, I know that letting go is a huge step in the direction of growth and healing.

I have worried in the past few years that I might not have the ability to recognize when I am being co-dependent and wind up in another destructive relationship. Nope. Crossed that off my list!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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