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User Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix - I can't even begin to imagine the stress, anxiety, and grief weighing on you right now. I hope you can feel all the love, thoughts and prayers we're sending you and your family. ((((Phoenix))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24733 | Registered: Aug 2011
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Phoenix1, I am so sorry that you are going through all of this and it just keeps getting worse. I hope your nieces step back and focus on what is truly important and not just what they can get out of this.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
hexed
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

I am so sorry you've suffered so much loss this week. My heart just breaks for you. I know that area so well and it is truly beautiful. Your thoughts about your brother were so uplifting that it makes me so much sadder that your nieces are behaving this way.

i hope they come to their senses but all too often i've seen a loved one's death bring out the very worst ipeople. i hope that your nieces finds peace and love in each other not conflict.

lots and lots of love for all of you.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8434 | Registered: Apr 2008
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just now saw this and I can't express how sorry I am to hear this. I'm sending my thoughts and support for you and your family.

((phoenix & family)))


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1278 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Phoenix)))))

Continued prayers.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21039 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))

I am so sorry.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 584 | Registered: Mar 2003
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, Phoenix.


You will have bad times, but they will always wake you up to the stuff you weren't paying attention to. - Robin Williams

Posts: 16776 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix1)))

I am so sorry for your losses. Yes - a week from Hell.


fBH (me) - 70, fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9911 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope you can feel all the love, thoughts and prayers we're sending you and your family.

I absolutely feel it, which is why I turned here. I cannot express my appreciation enough! I don't have anyone IRL to turn to as that person in the past was my brother. Everyone else looks to me for strength, so that is what I must show. Tears come in private moments.

Reporters have tracked me down, and I spoke to one that was a high school friend of my brother. Others have now found my workplace and I now have everyone screening my calls and running interference. My SIL's family has been in front of every camera they can find so my name has gotten out as well. I am a very private person and don't do that as it won't serve to help find my brother in any way. I really just want to run away, but must continue to be the tower of strength and primary POC for my family. Yet daily life must also go on. I am incredibly tired.

Thank you all again so very much.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1016 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
LA44
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course. You are exhausted, Phoenix. You need some time for yourself.

I am so sorry.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2211 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh ((((Phoenix))))

You are dealing with SO MUCH right now, I don't know how anyone could manage this. It's bad enough in private, but now the media are in your face? Ugh....

Sending all my strength your way, and continued positive thoughts for you and your family. I'm so sorry that this tragedy has struck.

((((Phoenix and family))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2541 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
norabird
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To have likely lost the person you could turn to, and to now see his children be materialistic, and yet to be able to show your own strength as this goes on is inspiring. I am sorry you have to deal with this devastating situation; may we all have some of your grace and strength if we face hard times ourselves.

Sending hugs and peace and strength. I hope you can find closure soon and be given the privacy you need to mourn.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4019 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Unreality
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are in my thoughts and prayers, as is your entire family. Please be sure to take care of yourself as well as everyone else - your feelings and needs are important too.

Hugs!


Posts: 16 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: US
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))) Still thinking of you and praying for your family.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8482 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix))) Sending mojo and strength to endure the ongoing trials.

my condolences to you and your family.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2666 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been thinking about you and your family. I hope you find some moments of peace.

Posts: 1642 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
cayc
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you have people circling the wagons to keep the press away from you.

(((Phoenix1)))


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3042 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry to hear this. That is too much for one person to deal with.

Sending you (((hugs))) and strength to carry on.

We are all here for you.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix,

I've got a little extra strength I don't need right now. Sending it your way. Stay strong.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3832 | Registered: Dec 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Phoenix)))))) You don't have to be strong here, honey. We've got you.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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