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User Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((phoenix)))

Sending love and hugs.


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

I hope your DS saves those blue prints. Maybe the house never gets built but what a special connection. So many will not have many momentos left. I'm so glad that your DS and friend are being allowed to search the area by your brother's house.

lots more love and good thoughts.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS was on-scene for about 12 hrs and he is just getting back to me with updates. The boys recovered three bodies in the vicinity of bro's house, two males and one female. The males were "pretty mangled" but he feels certain neither was my bro. Unfortunately, they are fairly confident the female is SIL. He described the horrific details of the body and what makes them fairly certain. Nothing can be said until the ME makes a positive ID. I told DS to tell everyone there (there were two other buddies with them) to never discuss these details with nieces. He said they had already gotten together and agreed to that. DS said that as awful as it was, he now has some closure and knows definitively there was nothing he could have done had he been there, and he would have died as well. He said no one had a chance. He also said mud is about 50 ft deep where bro's house once stood, and if he is at the bottom they will never find him. I am praying that is the case. DS sent me pics that speak volumes about the devastation. So sad for everyone who lost loved ones.

DS said it was a good thing his deployment prepared him for this, but it still hit too close to home. Too much carnage for a 20 yr old to go thru. It saddens me greatly, though I know how proud my brother is of his beloved nephew...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:14 PM, March 30th (Sunday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How horrific. God, Phoenix1, I don't even have any words for this. I'm just so sorry... for everyone. Sending love and hugs.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16348 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry.

Your son is a very brave young man.

(((Phoenix & family)))


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Married 36 years


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss.

you should be so proud of your son.

please know that you and all of your family are in my thoughts and prayers this evening.

sending as much strength in mojo as I can muster.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2546 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hardly ever pray and I just sent a prayer for you.

((Phoenix))


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5403 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((pheonix))) I'm so sorry for your loss.

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AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((Phoenix1)))))))))

It's almost 1 AM here but I wanted to check and see how things are. You and your family are very much in my prayers and I think of you still throughout the day.

You are not alone in this. Everyone is here for you so remember that. I'm sure you do but it doesn't hurt in hearing it again.

You raised a wonderful DS. Bless his heart and his friends for helping out. He's showing how strong he really is.

I'm going to say another prayer for you.


((((((((((Phoenix1 and DS))))))))))


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've been on my mind all week. This is close to where I live, it's just awful.

I'm so sorry Phoenix. Your son sounds like a wonderful young man, and I hope he builds that house in memory of the ones lost.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, your family is in my prayers.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stood in the shower and cried until the hot water ran out. It's a good place to have an emotional meltdown without witnesses. I am just feeling so overwhelmed with death right now. I have no where else to turn so I am turning here. I know you are all here for me. Words cannot adequately express my sincere thanks for letting me share with you. I am hurting so deeply, and this is far from over.

Tomorrow I will be calling bro's employer to make arrangements for DS to pick up personal effects. I want DS to be the first to go thru his personal files in the hope that a copy of bro's most recent Will is there (with the original buried in a safe 50 ft under mud). DS and I feel certain he would have set up a trust for nieces, knowing their financial irresponsibility. Without that Will we are certain we are going to be watching a train wreck. All bro's hard work will be squandered, and it sickens me and DS. Lesson learned here folks, keep copies of your Will in more than one location.

I am letting my father lean on me as he has now lost both sons under tragic circumstances. I've rallied the troops (aunts and family friends) to reach out to him to give him support whether he wants it or not. He will not go to Seattle until I go there, and that won't be until a recovery efforts have been called off or he has been found. There is nothing I can do right now that I cannot do from a distance.

I am just so overwhelmed and, no matter how much sleep I get (with medication assistance), I still feel utterly exhausted. Sorry for droning on and on, but thanks for being there for me. Tears have to end eventually, right?


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:10 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please don't apologize for "droning." This is what we're here for. To lift you up and give you a hug and a shoulder to cry on.

Big big hugs tonight.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 12:10 AM, March 31st (Monday)]


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((Phoenix)))))))))

The tears will end - eventually. Till then, let them flow.

We're here for you, whenever you need us.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:21 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry.

(((phoenix)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

did your brother have an attorney?
who drew up those blueprints? maybe they will know who he had for legal representation?

again, my condolences

ETA, when I had mine drawn up, my attorney kept copy. maybe that would be a good place to start looking.

[This message edited by 5454real at 12:30 AM, March 31st (Monday)]


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2546 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

did your brother have an attorney? who drew up those blueprints? maybe they will know who he had for legal representation?

Good questions, but he always did his own legal work. I know because he often ran things by me. He did his own blue prints, he was an engineer licensed in several states. Believe me, I am trying to think of every possible angle to protect his interests and do what I know he would have wanted, even if that means the nieces hate me for that loyalty.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix))) I am so sorry for all that you are enduring. The uncertainty just adds to the pent up feelings. I hope your bro is found. Such a horrible thing to happen. Please do not apologize, we are here for you ... still praying and keeping you in the Light.


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BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))

Sending more hugs your way. I am so sorry. Please continue to lean on us. We are here for you. You and your family are in my thoughts.


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Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 1:33 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))
Big hugs from me as well, to add to your circle of strength here. I'm so sorry for your loss - just sounds so trite but sincerely. Your brother sounds like such a great guy and he will be sorely missed but live on in your hearts. You cry, and vent, as much as you need to, and just watch possible PTSD for your son (as I know you already are, worrying about his time to deal with all this and grieve).
Just remember us towers don't stay up without help, too, and take the time for yourself that you need as well. Thoughts and prayers are winging your way, to share some of that burden with you.
Wish there was a bearhug icon...


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

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