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User Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 2:49 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry ((((Phoenix))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 3:32 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. I send special condolences to your father - losing one child is too much, losing 2 is beyond contemplation.

Special thoughts to your son and the workers on site who are dealing first hand with the devastation.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9768 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
sunandmoon
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

I am so very sorry for your loss. I continue to send prayers for you, your family and all of the victims loved ones.

sunandmoon


Posts: 1634 | Registered: Mar 2006
LA44
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are really no words of comfort I can possibly offer. I am just so very sorry for you, your son, your nieces and your Dad as well.

May strength find its way to you Phoenix in the days ahead.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2109 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix....What can we do for you? Other then read and offer words of love?

I wish we were friends, i would order you a pizza tonight so you wouldn't have to cook.

My heart absolutely breaks for you and your family, there are just no words and really none that are comforting enough to say anyway.

Just hugs....lots and lots of internet hugs

((((Phoenix))))


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

Posts: 1684 | Registered: Sep 2012
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry yet relieved by your update.

Continued prayers.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending love and any comfort I have to you.
Please please please use us as a sounding board. We are here for you and ready to read and respond to any words you need to get out.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:16 PM, March 31st (Monday)]



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix,

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers will continue for peace and healing for your family, with extra warm thoughts for your father and continued strength for you. I will also pray that your nieces find some decency and maturity during this very difficult time.

(((HUGS)))


Posts: 1000 | Registered: Jul 2006
TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

The whole thing is just awful.


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 20915 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's unimaginable what you're facing. I am so sorry for this tragic loss.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 996 | Registered: Mar 2012
Kodi
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix and family)))
I'm so sorry.

Posts: 1345 | Registered: Sep 2007
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no words. I'm so sorry.

Posts: 3301 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
wanauld
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so, so sorry.


If you want closure, start with your legs.

Posts: 330 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Virginia
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((phoenix))

on a practical note -- if you can find his attorney he/she may have a copy of the will. It may also have been filed with the local court. if he set up a trust for the girls there is a reasonable chance of one or the other

hang in there. you're doing amazingly well.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

prayers sent, although I know nothing can ease your pain right now.

(((phoenix)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3773 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Edith
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so terribly sorry for your unimaginable loss. Praying for you and your family.

E.


Lies are manipulations. Always.

Posts: 339 | Registered: Feb 2013
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers are sent,
I wish I could hug you right now and just be there for you in whatever you needed.
We are here for you ALWAYS!

I am SO sorry for your loss. And your DS is a brave young man. How hard that had to of been to find his auntie, but I am glad he is there for all the family.

(((((((Phoenix))))))


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2660 | Registered: Aug 2011
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((phoenix)))

Would the will have been filed with any custodian? Possibly a Lawyer friend?


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Nov 2010
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

(((hugs)))


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


Posts: 13647 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry to hear this..
please take good care of yourself!


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

“Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


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