Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
Member # 25341
| Posted: 2:49 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I'm so sorry ((((Phoenix))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options
Posts: 2615 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 31240
| Posted: 3:32 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. I send special condolences to your father - losing one child is too much, losing 2 is beyond contemplation.
Special thoughts to your son and the workers on site who are dealing first hand with the devastation.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 10383 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 10180
| Posted: 6:15 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss. I continue to send prayers for you, your family and all of the victims loved ones.
Posts: 1635 | Registered: Mar 2006
Member # 38384
| Posted: 7:13 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
There are really no words of comfort I can possibly offer. I am just so very sorry for you, your son, your nieces and your Dad as well.
May strength find its way to you Phoenix in the days ahead.
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 2462 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 36883
| Posted: 8:16 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Phoenix....What can we do for you? Other then read and offer words of love?
I wish we were friends, i would order you a pizza tonight so you wouldn't have to cook.
My heart absolutely breaks for you and your family, there are just no words and really none that are comforting enough to say anyway.
Just hugs....lots and lots of internet hugs
Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 17460
| Posted: 8:27 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Sorry yet relieved by your update.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21071 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 12041
| Posted: 8:30 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Sending love and any comfort I have to you.
Please please please use us as a sounding board. We are here for you and ready to read and respond to any words you need to get out.
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“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
Posts: 44985 | Registered: Sep 2006
Member # 11224
| Posted: 8:39 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers will continue for peace and healing for your family, with extra warm thoughts for your father and continued strength for you. I will also pray that your nieces find some decency and maturity during this very difficult time.
Posts: 1037 | Registered: Jul 2006
Member # 3031
| Posted: 9:02 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
The whole thing is just awful.
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
Posts: 21306 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
Member # 35004
| Posted: 9:27 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
It's unimaginable what you're facing. I am so sorry for this tragic loss.
BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
Doing well with R
Posts: 1052 | Registered: Mar 2012
Member # 16237
| Posted: 9:32 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
(((Phoenix and family)))
I'm so sorry.
Posts: 1352 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 31094
| Posted: 9:36 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I have no words. I'm so sorry.
Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Member # 19045
| Posted: 9:52 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I'm so, so sorry.
If you want closure, start with your legs.
Posts: 331 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Virginia
Member # 19258
| Posted: 10:22 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
on a practical note -- if you can find his attorney he/she may have a copy of the will. It may also have been filed with the local court. if he set up a trust for the girls there is a reasonable chance of one or the other
hang in there. you're doing amazingly well.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8460 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 35846
| Posted: 10:57 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
prayers sent, although I know nothing can ease your pain right now.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3846 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 38337
| Posted: 11:33 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I am so terribly sorry for your unimaginable loss. Praying for you and your family.
Lies are manipulations. Always.
Posts: 387 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 33128
| Posted: 1:18 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Prayers are sent,
I wish I could hug you right now and just be there for you in whatever you needed.
We are here for you ALWAYS!
I am SO sorry for your loss. And your DS is a brave young man. How hard that had to of been to find his auntie, but I am glad he is there for all the family.
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Posts: 2791 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 30079
| Posted: 2:34 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Would the will have been filed with any custodian? Possibly a Lawyer friend?
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.
Posts: 1909 | Registered: Nov 2010
Member # 14003
| Posted: 2:35 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
Phoenix, I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.
Posts: 13810 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Member # 30314
| Posted: 3:04 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014|
I'm so sorry to hear this..
please take good care of yourself!
his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”
Posts: 5283 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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