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User Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
norabird
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your and your family's loss.

I hope your DS will be offered some counseling to help him cope with being up so close. Hopefully he will find closure in the experience and as he said the certainty that nothing could be done.

I hope your nieces honor their dad's memory by being respectful about the estate, and that you take as many of those long hot showers as you need. The tears will end one day, but your love for your brother never will.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3722 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Phoenix)))))
I pray for peace for you and your family.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣


Posts: 10988 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm holding you & your family close in my thoughts today. (((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9286 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))
My family has been keeping you and yours in our prayers.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1387 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry Phoenix....


FWW - 40
I'm big on personal responsibility. Own your shit. ALL OF IT.

Posts: 5767 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
justdoit
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so sorry Phoenix. Your son sounds like an incredible young man who loved his uncle dearly.


Me - 60
WH - 67
Married 35 years
DDay - 5/14/09
He's reconciled, I'm in limbo.
"Stuck in the middle with you"

Posts: 155 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Rocky Mountains
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss Phoenix. I hope you can find some peace. Until then lean on us.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3324 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
clba317
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. I can't imagine the pain and loss that you must be feeling. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs!


BS
DS9,DS5
M 11, D 8/1/05- not soon enough!

Posts: 216 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: NY
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6540 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry for your loss. ((phoenix))

I work at a trust company. If there are trusts set up, the trust company most likely would have copies of the wills on file. Would you know the attorney your brother might have used? If the local bank is also a trust company, that might be a place to start.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12124 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
rainagain
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix and family)))))
much love


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17

Posts: 1288 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
yoyojo
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Phoenix. I am sending you strength and peace through this terrible situation.


Me-BS
H - WS
My beautiful kids, 3 innocent victims 1,4,& 5

Posts: 478 | Registered: Aug 2006
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix,

I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. It's un fathomable.

Lifting you and your family up in prayer.

You aren't droning. Don't even think it. Come here and purge.

(((Hugs)))


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


Posts: 1688 | Registered: Aug 2013
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

I am so, so sorry for your loss and the continuing uncertainty. I hope you will find closure soon.

Like your user name, you will rise up from the ashes of this personal/family loss.

You are strong!

Continued strength,
lf


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

Posts: 2839 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
hexed
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

continued prayers for you today. hope you're doing alright.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8405 | Registered: Apr 2008
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((pheonix)))

What's going on today?

Just know we are here for you.


Posts: 11399 | Registered: Mar 2008
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all so very much.

I am hanging in there. My DS, as primary family contact, as been contacted by detectives at the Sheriff's Office that are assisting the ME in body identification. The Det. said unofficially they are fairly certain the body is that of my SIL, but were asking DS for more information, which he has been asking me about. We gave them the dental office name, and we are all frustrated (including the Det) that the office is closed until April 7th. The Det is trying to get a hold of someone, but is not having much luck. So we may have to continue to sit on this horrible secret for a while longer. No one else in the family knows any of this and we cannot divulge until there is a positive ID. So while I am watching my SIL's family continue to post on FB about how they are coming to terms that they are both not likely to be found, I am carrying this horrible news that is going to open a wound for them that is just starting to heal.

I continue to dig for a Will, but not having any luck. Still waiting for answers from a couple of open avenues, but I am not overly optimistic.

I am now hearing my nieces are going to be talking to an attorney for suing the state, which many victims and/or their families are now talking about. This sickens me further and smacks of the "G" word: greed. This was an act of nature, my brother knew there were risks living there (a landslide occurred in 2006 that didn't make it across the river), and he accepted that. Suing the state won't bring them back, and that is something that would likely go on for many years as the state is not going to willingly open the checkbook to appease people, regardless of how tragic. I hate that so many people go after the deep pocket and easy profit at times like this. There is a geologic report going back to 1999 (I believe) that even predicted a catastrophic mudslide in this area. Yet mortgage companies did not require specific insurance coverage to cover it. My brother did not have such coverage nor did he have mortgage insurance. The property is a total loss, and dealing with the mortgage company is yet another issue I must handle.

And so it goes. *sigh*


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 974 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are no words. Just ((((Phoenix1)))).


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4023 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((phoenix)))))
(((((Dear Son phoenix)))))
((((((Father phoenix)))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4553 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Phoenix, I'm so sorry.

This is going to be a long haul. We will be here.

(((Hugs)))


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


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