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User Topic: Washington mudslide...brother and sil among the missing
norabird
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Phoenix DS)))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3785 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You raised a truly amazing son! To do all that he has done for his love of his uncle (and aunt) is a testament to the love he learned from you.

I am sorry you still have no word. The good news is, other than some showers today, the rest of the week should be dry so, hopefully, the waters will start to recede, for more searching.

Sending strength.

PM also sent to you.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1265 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thinking of you and your DS everyday. I am so sorry you must endure this waiting.

(((P and DS)))


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
hexed
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix and DS))

every day I think of you. hope you're doing as well as possible today.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8407 | Registered: Apr 2008
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

Your son is very brave. No doubt his Uncle would be proud at how hard he is working to help everyone.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson


Posts: 764 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Phoenix and family)))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7152 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix & DS)))


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix and Sweet Son)))).

Your son will reap what he has sowen. All that he has done will come back to him 10 folds. He is sweet, kind, has a huge heart. He takes action to help and be there. I am proud of him! and I don't know him. God is watching and smiling on your sweet boy. Good things come to good people. Maybe not right away but it will.

God was watching out for your son and his buddy that day. Your son was saved for a reason. That I truly believe.

I also wish more people thought like you and I, that people you love can be ripped from you within a blink of a eye. Have no regrets. Show them and tell them you love them. Have no could woulda shoulda's.

(((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really hate to bring disgrace on my own family members, but they are doing it themselves, and it makes my blood boil. Time for a vent, and some ugly details, so bare with me for a moment.

Last week SIL's brother (while he was still in WA, he went home Thursday) told me that he walked into my bro's condo (where he was staying with the nieces while he was there) and walked in on older niece having sex, right out in the open, with some dirt bag boyfriend we think she picked up at the bus stop in CA she was stranded at when this incident happened. The guy is a homeless derelict, according to SIL's bro. In fact, he stole SIL's bro's Kindle. You get the picture, a real piece of work. So it was bad enough that niece has so little respect for her parents to do that in THEIR home (it is not her home, she just flops there when she has no other couch to flop on) when their bodies are still being searched for! THAT pissed me off big time. Between that and the thick layer of marijuana smoke filling the rooms really took SIL's bro by surprise (he is very religious and said it has even tested his limits of compassion). Supposedly, oldest niece is trying to get rid of this dirtbag BF but he just won't go away (heard that one before too).

Fast forward to just a few minutes ago. I get a call from the police department where bro's condo is located. First, my heart dropped hearing it was the PD as I was expecting something about bro or SIL. That wasn't it. He was calling to advise that he is investigating and possible burglary of the condo as a male was seen climbing up over the second floor balcony to gain access to bro's unit. The officer spoke to oldest niece and she told them it was her "BF" (remember, she is trying to get rid of the guy) and he had permission to be there as he was retrieving something he left there. Oldest niece still has keys, so why is he crawling up over the back balcony?? Why was there an empty shopping cart sitting right by the front door? Yes, huge red flags, and neither the officer or I are buying it.

So I told the officer to continue with his investigation as the dirtbag BF had no lawful reason for being in the unit, nor does niece have authority to allow it as she is not an authorized resident on the lease. I gave him some background on nieces, which he pieced together based on the extensive police reports she is mentioned in (not being arrested but being involved in many situations). He is going to call her back to try to get more info on the BF, and I asked him to kindly turn up the heat on her as sometimes hearing things from an "authoritative" source is the only way it will sink in to her. He understood and he is going to suggest that if she is covering for him she could be a possible accessory to a crime, etc. I also warned him she was a master liar and manipulator and take everything she says with a grain of salt. He said he pretty much already had that picture of her.

Even though all the belongings in the condo will be turned over to the girls eventually, after probate, until then they belong to the estate and any removal is theft. The officer agrees and is going to treat his investigation in that manner.

My heart breaks for my nieces losing both their parents, but their actions, still speaking very loudly, make me want to .

My bro is surely pissed off if he is looking down at them right now. Unfortunately, this is not a surprise at all. GGGrrrrrr.

Vent over...

ETA: As of this morning's press releases, the ME has 35 victims and 31 have been identified. There are still 10 on the missing person's list. Bro and SIL are still on the missing person's list...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 3:31 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 978 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Phoenix1))


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one


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swizzlestick03
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry Phoenix. I cannot even imagine having to deal with that nonsense on top of everything else.

You are in my thoughts and prayers every day.


Me: BW-32
Him: WS-31
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One small kiddo.

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still thinking of you ((Phoenix1))


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4039 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Know that the searchers will NOT stop until they have scoured the complete area with a fine toothed comb.

On a report yesterday they said they actually only have 5% of the area searched to their satisfaction. 5%!! They have a long way to go, but they WILL do it.

Now if they can just get that damn berm built this week while we have good weather, that will help drain the water.

Praying for your family, px. (and all of those families).

Sending renewed strength to your son.

I am VERY proud of the people here. Almost ALL the $$$$ collected have been by us ordinary people who have given $10-20. It adds up fast. It's truly amazing what we, as a community, can do. (this applies to ALL tragedies this country has endured)

Sorry about your nieces. Some people are just so mind-boggling selfish!! Stupid shits!!!!!

[This message edited by still2suspicious at 3:51 PM, April 10th (Thursday)]


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1265 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today's latest press release: the ME has positively identified 35 of the 36 victims they have received to date. The missing persons list is now at nine. Bro and SIL are still on the missing person's list...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix1)))

HUGE hugs to you, Phoenix1. I think of you every day, and send you strength.

[This message edited by sad12008 at 9:46 PM, April 10th (Thursday)]


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

I'm sorry there is still no closure for this. You are doing amazingly well. You've raised a lovely son who has conducted himself so well in the face of such tragedy.

lots of lov for all of you.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8407 | Registered: Apr 2008
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry that you can't even get confirmation from the Mae/search efforts. I'm sure you could sorely use that sense of closure.

Maybe your nieces will have a reckoning and get themselves straight out of the huge mess that this is. I will be hoping they can become a credit to their father again.

But don't ever feel bad about needing to vent of course this behavior is hugely upsetting especially at such a time.


((((Phoenix))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3785 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix1)))

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

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