OOPS I responded before seeing all the replies! Ignore me haha
IGNORE: Why don't you tell him you would like to go to Marriage Counselling for a few sessions? Suggest it's short-term and say you need his help and a mediators help in working through rebuilding your trust, and that you have a lot of unanswered questions and concerns that you want handled constructively. If you tell him that YOU need it then I can't see why he would argue against it. Then you can use the space of MC to help him understand all of your hang ups and hopefully he'll stop hiding from or avoiding the realities of your triggers and emotions.
I just want to sympathise with you -- Twitter is how I discovered the full truth of my WH's A. He had a secret twitter account since December that he used to flirt with her on. I moved into his parent's at the beginning of February (when he admitted to EA and being 'in love), but didn't discover his secret Twitter until Feb 23 which happened to be a week and a half after they turned their EA physical!! I was sick. Still am. Photos of her lying on MY couch with MY cat and MY husband!
I still read her Twitter account. It's pathetic. She's left her husband and just used mine as an ego boost because she doesn't know how to be alone. It's almost funny watching her self-destruct on Twitter day after day, whining about being 'mistreated' by MY HUSBAND. So... so... delusional. BS 26
Nov-?? A with his Ex
EA DDay: 31 Jan, I moved to in-laws
PA DDAY: 23 Feb
DDay 3: 13 May. Back in A.
9 Mar: I moved back. A went underground.
9 Apr: He moved into parents.
14 Apr: Me NC with WH.