Being betrayed is traumatic.
When was your dday? What is WH doing to help you heal? To heal himself? And the marriage?
Is he NC(no contact) with the OW?
Has he been tested for STD's? You too?
Is he completely open and transparent with you? Do you have full access to ALL of his accounts? Cell? Email? Facebook?
Is he answering all of your questions without blame or anger?
Is he taking full responsibility for his decision to cheat?
Is he in IC to figure out his why?
It takes 3-5 years to heal from infidelity. But with a remorseful WS, and a lot of hard work, you can survive. The early days are the hardest. Make sure you are eating, drinking water, and getting some rest.
Welcome to SI.
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.