Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: spaceplease (45329)

General Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: After Awhile You Learn
confused615
♀ Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found this on Pinterest and thought this was appropriate for both betrayed spouses and wayward spouses.


"After A While"

After a while
you learn the subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.


And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.


And you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too
uncertain for plans and futures have a way
of falling down in mid-flight.


After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.


And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7679 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
itainteasy
♀ Member
Member # 31094
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
lilacs40
♀ Member
Member # 31314
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This poem helped though my 20's and I guess it's going to help me get through my 40's.


I wish I could just stop I know another moment will break my heart too many tears too many time too many years I've cried over you

Posts: 321 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: IL
BeyondBreaking
♀ Member
Member # 38020
Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this poem!

"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers" was my quote for my senior yearbook in high school. :)


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, March 27th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. That was really cool.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17810 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
neverdidithink
♀ Member
Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has been hanging above my desk since D1 in 2001 and it still inspires me all these years later.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 338 | Registered: Sep 2013
OnTilt
♀ Member
Member # 34140
Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess it's all in the point of view of the story behind whoever posts this poem.

I have a 'friend' who happens to be an unremoresful WS, and who posted this on her FB wall the day after her BH found out his wife was still 'seeing' the OM of whom she had an LTA with, and when confronted by her BH, announced, for the 2nd time, that she wanted a D, and said she was moving out, for the 2nd time.

So, yeah, meaning can be beautiful or horrible, depending on the spirit in which it was posted. My jaw dropped when I read this on her wall and my heart broke for her BH. :(


BS(Me), WH(Him) in our 50's
Status: I'm giving up on him

Posts: 379 | Registered: Dec 2011
confused615
♀ Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can see this being cruel if an unremorseful WS posted it.

It spoke to me, as a BS. But I thought it also sounded like wayward coming out of the fog and finding remorse.

Im sorry it was used to hurt someone.

My favorite line is the same as yours, BeyondBreaking.

"So you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers."


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7679 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Topic Posts: 8

Return to Forum: General Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.