While I know every infidelity hurts, it amazes me how husbands expect to reconcile after an affair when they never planned to leave.
What does that say about how they really feel or know us? Do they have such little respect for us that they believed we could be used as a floor mat? Do they believe that our love was so great that we would settle for a marriage that was shown such disrespect?
While I will never understand the dishonesty that goes along with an affair, wanting to stay married and cheat is unbelievable to me. How we are supposed to heal and move forward in a marriage with them is a challenge my brain can't wrap itself around.
I do believe I could have forgiven my husband, if he was truly unhappy and left. While I would not have thought much of his cowardness to choose to cheat rather than leave first, I could understand being unhappy. But to cheat and want his marriage. I don't think so!