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User Topic: should I stay or should I go?
luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been a mixed bag of emotions all week. I found myself wondering why I'm here and who would really care if I wasn't anymore.

I have 2 adult children but they both have their own lives. Neither of them really want anything to do with me until they need something from me. I call my son once a week and often feel as if I am bothering him and he is in a rush to get off the phone. He calls me on occasion if he has news he wants to share but that's rare. My daughter is classic NPD and makes me feel like shit every time we are together. Even with the recent events that lead to her memory loss, she still manages to make me feel like a useless inconvenience in her life. That is, until she needs a babysitter.

I just moved into my new place on March 15th after being burglarized at my old apartment. I moved 12 miles north of my job to an area where I could feel safe. On the 18th our new CFO announced that our office is moving...20 south of the current office! The area is notorious for the traffic and no one in their right mind would purposely live where I do and have to drive to where our new office will be. Our current lease is up in September so the move will happen in July or August, whenever the new office is ready.

So I have to either find a new job or hire a dog walker to come in every day because there is no way my 2 little dogs can be left alone for 11+ hours a day without a potty break. I highly doubt my company will give me an increase to cover the extra gas and dog walker expense.

I'm living paycheck to paycheck and make just enough to pay my few bills and my living expenses. What the hell is the point?

I'm seriously considering packing all my shit and heading to Florida. Unfortunately, I just signed a 14 month lease and can't afford to break it.

So, do I start an intense job hunt in my area and stay put or do I suck up the commute until my lease is up then pack it in and say adios to Georgia?


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


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norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is no downside to job-hunting; who knows what you will find! And you can still leave the FL option open for when your lease ends. But since that won't be for some time, definitely try to get a better fit in between now and then.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Nora. I'd make plans to move when the lease is up, but there's no harm in job hunting in the meantime. I'm sorry you're hurting, honey. ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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getnbtr1
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with the others....start looking, you never know what options will present themselves. Florida isn't going anywhere and you can still target relocating when your lease is up. I'm sorry you are in this position and I'm especially sorry you don't feel the support from your kids that you need right now.

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luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do have my resume updated and I sent one out last week. I will keep my feelers out and network where I can.

But, if I don't find a job before our office moves, it will be very hard to continue searching because of the location and commute time.

I've been with my current company for 10 yrs. We are a small office with only 7 on staff here in GA, including the CEO and CFO. We have more than 900 employees company wide though. The general consensus of the ladies that have all been here longer than me is that the new CFO is looking to bring in his own people but rather than let us go he is making it difficult for us to stay. We will all have the horrific commute, he won't because he lives very close to the new office. The old CFO lived in Florida and worked from his home office, there's no reason the new one can't as well.

If I find a suitable position elsewhere I am likely to stay put in Georgia.



"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


Posts: 1038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you work from home?


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would telecommuting a few days a week be an option?

If not, keep looking and hopefully a better opportunity will come along.


Posts: 3388 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately telecommuting is not an option in my position. While I am in the accounting office and have a very official sounding title (Accounts Payable/Payroll Accountant).
I am really nothing more than a glorified button pusher. 90% of my job is data entry and the data comes directly to the office from 20 different locations and all of their utility providers. Plus I get tons and tons of payroll maintenance, garnishments orders, tax levy's etc... I really NEED to be at my desk every day, no other way around it.


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


Posts: 1038 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are moving your office downtown? WTH??!! I would be pissed, especially since you just moved. And even if you had the option to move downtown, who can afford that? And who feels safe down there either?

Start looking for a new job. You have a few months until the move so maybe you will find something. And if nothing pops up by the time the office moves, re evaluate then.

And if I were you I would also start to do research on FL. It is a big state so try to determine where you might want to live. Look at cost of living and job opportunities and such. And if you move close to Orlando, then your kids will want to visit so they can do to Disney and Sea World and Universal.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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