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User Topic: Imagine how many people effected
OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reading through some of these threads especially the one about what did the AP do for a living really has me thinking. And my own situation, and the jobs of us as BS, and the WS.

It is clear that there must be literally thousands of unintended consequences to innocent people because of infidelity.

For myself, I deal with legal contracts. I can't even count how many times I have struggled to get through a contract or deal with a client, due to being upset over what goes on in my marriage. I have even declined work. I've met clients with swollen eyes from a night of crying. I've cancelled meetings. I've probably not given a few clients my best.

I think of this ho-worker and her bopping around back on a job site where one slip up from one of the guys could result in a piece of major machinery coming apart, or something not being built properly. I think of the wife of her "work husband" who is clearly depressed over her marriage and is a nurse, how this must effect the care she gives her patients, all because her ws and Miss Cigarette Breath are so selfish.

I think of my own ws too, don't know what he did but if he did, how it must have effected his job. At the very least, the sick drama of ho-worker and the "work husband" effected everyone in that company. Rumors are at the very least distracting.

I think of my ex wh, and how horribly my young children were effected by his behavior because I got so horribly depressed, for years really. They were cheated. They are older but have also been cheated due to the pain my current ws has caused me too.

It makes me wonder how many thousands upon thousands of patients, clients, etc have been harmed because of selfish, selfish cheaters whom have either been too distracted with their A to work properly, or whom have broken the hearts of their BS so badly they were unable to do their job. I think of the companies that lose money over workers screwing around on each other and using company time and resources to do it, and the workers who unknowingly end up covering for people who are cheating (ho-worker is a good example, every minute she spent out desperately seeking attention from the men someone else was covering her job)

How many medical mishaps, how much shoddy construction work, how many erroneously written contracts, how much money lost, how many accidents caused by all of these things unbeknownst to those involved that it was really caused by a snowball effect originating with someone's infidelity.

It's staggering to think about.


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

Posts: 377 | Registered: Feb 2014
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah it's kinda depressing when you think about it.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1984 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
OutoftheDeep
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah it's kinda depressing when you think about it.

yeah, and scary


Me - maybe BW 40s
He - maybe WH 40s
My mother was always the OW
ExWH in first M had lta.
Current marriage:
2/'13 out all night with an ow
2/'13 busted at strip club
4/'14-? bad boundaries w/howorker

Posts: 377 | Registered: Feb 2014
Mhiimg65
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Knowing how little work I've gotten done in the last three months, it is staggering to think about. I know I have pissed off a few clients with my extended deadlines. Being self-motivated has always been strong point for me. Not now.

Yep:
Shoddy buildings
Shoddy cars
STD's
Car accidents
shootings (that's a big one)
Wrong decisions
The list goes on and on....


" He paved paradise and put up a parking lot"
BS - me
WS- him
married 26 years, together since kids
D- Day Jan 4 2014
PMA- starting this moment
R - in MC. WH is in IC

Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
LifeIsTooWeird
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd imagine this was one of the many thought behind "no fraternization policies" that many companies have put into place. It doesn't cover the fallout effects though. I have watched people slack off for years at my job for one reason or another, meanwhile I pushed through and picked up the slack. Since all this happened though, I'm unmotivated to do my job much less anyone else's. The sad part is, my bosses, though they don't seem to notice when others slack off, seem to point it out right away when I do.


Me - GF (38)
Him - BF (33)
DDay - 08/13
Together 8 Years
In R

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