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User Topic: Should i help WS find a place?
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You don't need to help speed it along. Tell him to get out-now-today. Just go-get out.

You don't owe him any reason to make this comfy and fun. This is what all the suggestions with the hefty bags are about.

Help him empty his clothing into trash bags and throw them out of the house.

I bet you can have that done in less than an hour. And BAM-everyone's happier.

[This message edited by BtraydWife at 3:36 PM, March 29th (Saturday)]


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 1758 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, March 29th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All good advice here. Just remember, he in no way helped you when he decided to tear your life apart for that skank, so just give him the same amount of consideration that he gave to you. And that would be none.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3348 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Imissmyhusb
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for your replies.
I will check on lawyers and support
I am not so comfortable with puttg him out right away because i would like to line up my ducks, make sure me and the kids will be ok. But dont worry i will do it. I know its necessary

[This message edited by Imissmyhusb at 11:27 AM, March 30th (Sunday)]


Met '95 - dated '97 - married '03 - dday '13
3 kids 7y and 4y twins, me - sahm since '07, him - idk him any more
~~~~~~~~~
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.

Posts: 223 | Registered: Mar 2014
Imissmyhusb
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found out that he applied for an apt, after tellg me he wants to try to work things out. Why hasnt he mentiond that he is actively looking to move out?
He just suggestd separation; this is a big move he is makg in silence. Wow


Met '95 - dated '97 - married '03 - dday '13
3 kids 7y and 4y twins, me - sahm since '07, him - idk him any more
~~~~~~~~~
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.

Posts: 223 | Registered: Mar 2014
one2ndchance
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why hasnt he mentiond that he is actively looking to move out?

He's been hiding so much from you for so long. Do you really think he's going to tell you anything about his plans?

I strongly suggest you get to a lawyer asap. For all you know, he's moving money out of accounts so he can hide them during disclosure. This will affect you financially.

You're sleeping with the enemy, honey. He's making all sorts of plans that don't include you. He thinks you're weak because you know about his cheating and yet have continued to act like his loving wife.

You are NOT weak. Show him!


Me: BW 59
Him: STBXWH 61
Married: 25 years
DDay1: 2/2002; DDay2: 6/2012
Gave him his second chance and he blew it.
Divorcing

Posts: 479 | Registered: May 2007 | From: California
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^What she said.

Do not expect in S/D what you did not get in your M.

He didn't tell you the truth I. Your M. He hasn't acted with integrity or honour in your M. He will not suddenly start now.

Instead of focussing on him and what he's doing/not doing start focussing on you. What are you doing to protect yourself?

It's easy for him because he detached from you even before he started cheating. This is new to you so you're reeling. I know it because I was too.

A year from now you'll read a post just like this and you'll be swinging the biggest 2x4s gently at the poster.

You'll be kicking yourself for not protecting yourself. I know I did.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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