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User Topic: Interference with custody ??
teeghan
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Angry  Posted: 8:16 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg I am heated pissed. I have a tpo for domestic violence and he gets them every other weekend supervised through his parents. They asked for extra time this week because of spring break and I said absolutely not. My kids already hate going and have major panic attacks before they even go and I wait for over two hours tonight when they call me back and aid their attorney was told by my attorney they could keep them
Until 6pm Monday which is a bold face lie. I can't get my attorney tonight but when I talked to them Thursday when they called me they flat out agreed NO EXTRA TIME BE AUSE OF HOW THE KIDS DO NOT WONT TO GO. So I finding hard to believe my attorney would give permission and not tell me when I said NO already.

Omg I am a basket case and they would not let me talk to the kids. He has already found out what new school they go to by asking them questions and where we live when that is suppose to be confidential. Oh my god 8 am can not get here fast enough. I am sooooooo sooooolo mad.


Anyone else dealt with interference with custody before?


Posts: 111 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Georgia
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I asked my L what steps I should take in the event ex-shat were to try to keep Teslet past the time stated in the parenting guidelines.

She said, try to contact him and let him know I was at his house to pick Teslet up.

If Teslet was not returned, I should call the police and present them with a copy of my decree and the parenting guidelines...and let them handle it from there.

Your L cannot 'give permission.' That is not their function.

I would have a copy of your decree, parenting time agreement, and pertinent texts regarding the pick up time. If your ex does not produce the children after you have contacted him, I would call the police.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Klove
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yyyyyyyikes! I'm pissed/scared for you!
(Hugs)


"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was given the same advice as Tesla. Inform him that the children should be returned, and if that doesn't happen according to the schedule I should proceed to contact the police to ask for their assistance.

I'd call them right now if I was in your shoes.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9317 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teeghan, I think you need to notify the police immediately, you have a TPO and he has essentially kidnapped the children. Ask them to go get your children and return them to you. Your lawyer would not have spoken to their lawyer without speaking to you about it as well, especially if the decision to not allow extra time had already been made. His family are not good choices to supervise visitation, i recommend you file for an emergency hearing to change the visitation to court supervised by an officer of the court (make it so he has to pay for it) I am scared for you and your kids, on one hand you don't want to be accused of parental alienation by telling them to not share with Daddy but at the same time, they are not understanding the severity of what could happen if he knows what school and their home address. I also recommend contacting the school and providing them a copy of the TPO and making it clear that anyone who is picking up your kids must be on a preapproved list and show ID, if your x or his family members show up the police should be called and you should be notified


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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would get a copy of your order and go over there with the police and retrieve your children.

There is no way your attorney "gave permission." I would also file a complaint for contempt.

I would now go to the school and give them a copy of your custody order so that he cannot retrieve them from school.

I would have my attorney on this first thing Monday. Come down and come down hard.

Cat


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D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
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teeghan
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Police here told me they won't do anything. It is civil in Georgia and to call my attorney in the morning. Going to be a LONG night.........:(.


100% custody. Because of domestic violence he did in front of the kids and he has been NPD nightmare. And it sucks to hear the police will do nothing. I even spoke to a supervisor. Unless he took them over state lines it is a civil matter and that is that. Wtf??????


Posts: 111 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Georgia
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teeghan I'm so sorry.

I can't imagine what you are going through.

Have you been able to talk to the children?

Counting down the hours with you.

((Hugs))


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is bullshit.
In my state there is a difference between the city PD and the county PD. If you call city PD, they give you that run around bullshit. But county is more responsive. I would march my ass into the county sheriff's office with my decree and guidelines and if they tell you that it is a civil matter, I would tell them that I want to file kidnapping charges...there...now it's criminal and they can do something.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

scroll down:

http://www.womenslaw.org/statutes_detail.php?statute_id=6159


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9317 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup... Same thing here.

I have a PO. He decided it was inconvenient to return my son so kept him (over spring break) until it was more convenient.

I called the police and was told they wouldn't help me go get my son because that would be violating the PO. I filed a police report and have that on file for when we end up back in court or I end up needing to show history of his behavior.

Ridiculous, but same BS story I got here too. Sorry..


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even if you find your voice,
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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call the police and report a kidnapping. THAT will get their attention! Tell them that your IL's and X (or stbx) kidnapped your child and you want them to issue an Amber Alert.

I live in GA and I often hear Amber Alerts for kids taken by their biological parent.

Keep pushing until someone is responsive.

(((hugs)))


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So shake him off
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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG! Did you try threatening police intervention? Maybe they don't know they won't do anything. Make sure something is in text or email or at least VAR for documentation, including that they won't let you talk to the kids. As soon as you get the kids back have your attorney take him back to court to eliminate the grandparent supervision as they have failed. He will have to be supervised by someone else, maybe your side of the family? If anything.


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Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

8am is coming.

Thinking of you.

Not long now.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have


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Wait for The Lord; be strong and take h


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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope you're talking to your lawyer and filing kidnapping charges today... How are you holding up?


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Posts: 859 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you, Hon, and hoping things went well today.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9317 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping you've got your babies back and your lawyer involved!

I'm willing to bet their lawyer is not going to like being put in the middle of this with words shoved in his mouth.

Hugs,


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, (((teeghan))) I hope it's all wrapping up, happily, by now.

I am outraged for you.


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WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
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badd
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump hoping she is ok, has anybody heard?

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Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone heard from teeghan? I'm worried.


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