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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read all the job related threads here, and I have to admit I get anxiety attacks just reading some of them - especially the job search ones.

I don't know how people do it. The whole looking for a job process terrifies me, and it is probably why I have spent 13+ years of my nearly 15 years of employment history with the same company. (I have had one other "real" job with another company when I was 18-19 that lasted for less than a year before I ended up where I am now.)

I realize not everyone looks for a new job because they want to, and a lot of times it's because they have to, but I also know some people who are restless and get bored if they stay at one job too long. That concept is so foreign to me.

I do wonder sometimes if I am missing out on something better because I am too chicken to take a risk, but for the most part, I love my job, it pays well, the benefits are good, I have a lot of independence, and I've managed to advance without having to seek it out.

The running joke around work is that I will be one of those people who will be one of those rare people celebrating my 50th anniversary with the company in the future because I will be there until I retire.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2216 | Registered: Feb 2010
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love my job, it pays well, the benefits are good, I have a lot of independence, and I've managed to advance without having to seek it out


STAY there.

The economy in the last years have made the job market HORRENDOUS. I have been dealing with this problem of supporting myself for 5 years its been the biggest force behind a drinking problem I am trying to control. If and when you do want to move on, the word NETWORKING is key. There is a "hidden job market" that really pisses me off because I don't have a "network" to help me.

The next consideration is actually GETTING the job. My sister got a good paying job but at 49 years old she is CHAINED hook line and sinker to it. If she even THINKS of putting herself/family first, she could get bounced.

Don't wreck your good fortune.


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 475 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really have no plans to leave.

I've had recruiters contact me about jobs that pay more, have better titles, etc. and I won't so much as go for an interview to check it out. The thought just causes me massive anxiety.

Just wondering aloud if maybe I am hurting my own career by being so afraid of change...


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2216 | Registered: Feb 2010
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