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User Topic: Wishing Harm To the AP
NotDefeatedYet
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would pour molten metal into his ears and enjoy myself in the process.


"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Texas
33years
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW's business was destroyed last year in May by a tornado....she escaped. Since then she has opened a new business near the same area and I have my fingers crossed as we head into tornado season again!


Me (BS) 58
Him (WH) 57
DD July 10, 2013
My Motto: "I'm fairly certain that nothing anymore is certain"

Posts: 73 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Middle of USA
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only thing I really wish? Is that they could feel the true raw emotional and physical pain like I have. To be blind sided and have your life torn from you in and instant. To feel exactly like I have when this pain was inflicted on me.

But do I wish death? Arrests? Cancer? No. I'm indifferent.

If something happened I wouldn't be sad or happy. It just is.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
crossroads2010
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I made myself stop looking at her fb page...eventually it became easy to resist...now I have to make myself look if I feel suspicious about something...I can't help but hope one I will look and it will be gone.
I have said 100 times why can't she just fall off the face of the earth...my life would be so much easier. The truth of the matter is that she should be so insignificant to me that is shouldn't matter. But I wonder...what if she were gone...how would that change the way I view things...the way I think about my M...our future. To be rid of the possibility that NC could be broken....how would that feel?

Posts: 579 | Registered: Nov 2010
Jls0320
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told WS's counselor I hope his EA partner dies a fiery death off a cliff, counselor laughed and hubby looked scared lol. She's pathetic.


Me: 33 BS 2 little boys
Him: 33 WH, too much too list, drowning in his sex addiction
Together 15yrs, married 6yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
NC broken 7/28/14- pathetic piece of crap
Divorce filed, he loves his whore lol

Posts: 259 | Registered: Nov 2013
betrayedhusband
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a lot of those same thoughts over the last year. However, I keep coming back to the fact that my fWW is the OW to her AP's BW. I would hope she wouldn't wish harm on my fWW.

I feel a little better each day that I put just a little more distance between those thoughts and feelings. I am trying to let go of the rage. I know it doesn't do me any good to hold onto it.

I hope someday to have inner peace and not allow the thoughts of him to linger, and maybe eventually not think of him at all.

I hope you all will eventually have that peace as well!


Me BS 48
Her fWW 47
Married 24 yrs
Together 30 yrs
DDay 16 Jan 2013
EA 9 months & PA 1 month
Children 2 young adults
Working through it
"Character is what you are when no one is watching"

Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013
StorybookGirl42
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't really have to wish harm on the OW, she does it to herself. Though I do admit, if she got run over by a train, car, bus, etc and died I wouldn't shed any tears.

The OW in my situation is my husband's ex and the mother of his child. They never married which still chaps her hide.

She keeps making the same stupid choices. When he and I first got together, she was living with her mom doing the "full time student" thing. They were fighting for custody and doing a two weeks with each for the time being. She and her mother got into a physical fight (not their first) and she got thrown out of the house so she became homeless.

My husband (then boyfriend) of course took his son and let her see him whenever she good while she was living in her car with her cat. She finally got an apartment (a real slum), but no job. Barely even looks for a job because she's going to use her financial aid and child support from him (which had not been decided) to pay for everything. Oops, fin aid got yanked because she was on academic probation. Starts job hunting but TURNS DOWN several because "they were part time and wouldn't cover all her bills."

Gets evicted, homeless again. Doesn't see her son for two separate spans of 6 weeks at a time. Even sets up time to see him and then doesn't show during those times.

Custody case finally gets finished and my husband wins everything, of course. She's in a homeless halfway house program that got her a job and gave her a place to stay. Gets kicked out of the program because she won't follow the rules or save money as required by the program. Lives at her office job by the good grace of her boss. Gets fired for basically going off on everyone in her office after my husband dumped her after their brief A. Blames my husband for her getting fired.

Homeless again. Still homeless. Has a better job now, at least, but chose to spend her first bonus with the new company on an iPad rather than socking it away for an apartment so she isn't FREAKING HOMELESS ANYMORE.

Her son, her sweet sweet boy who just turned 5, knows his mom is homeless but she won't talk to him about it or reassure him that she's working on herself, etc. So he talks to me about how he's worried about his mom. 5 year olds should not be thinking they need to help their parents. He wants to give her his piggy bank to help her.

She is her own bad karma. Sad thing is, she thinks the world at large is out to get her. Wonder what it is like to be so important that the world revolves around you?


Posts: 95 | Registered: Jan 2014
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have the champagne ready for when I hear the good news----that karma has given OW what she deserves


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1355 | Registered: Dec 2012
Flatlined123
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope the slut dies.....a slow, drawn out painful death. I hope she knows it's going to happen and has time to think about it the damage she helped bring to my family.

I hope she looses everything! She shouldn't be allowed to live.


Me: BS 43
H : WS 46
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."

Posts: 664 | Registered: Jun 2012
Scubachick
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use to wish many of the same things sistermilkshake did. Lately, I think just being herself and having to look at her pug face in the mirror everyday is punishment enough.

Posts: 641 | Registered: Jul 2013
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've seen, via FB, that the whore's life has crumbled. Deaths including her mother, aunt and dog. Thrown out by LTSO (thanks to me letting him know what she is). Had to get a job in a strip mall, where before LTSO paid for it all. She's just a pig, and despite me seeing her life fall apart, I still wait for the day when there is no smile left on her face. As long as she's 'making the best of things', I wait for her to suffer.

I don't obsess like before, but I don't feel badly for wishing her pain. She wanted my life, and was doing all she could to get it. The only way to get it would be for me to suffer. Why then should I not want her suffering?

I hope she, and all unremorseful OW, suffer until their death, and I hope that their death is a long time from now, and that from now until that day there is nothing but suffering.

These are people that laughed as we were lied to, cheated, and betrayed. They were gleeful as we unknowingly suffered, and they prayed for us to be out of the picture in any means necessary. I believe they deserve the life they hoped for us, and that is not a good life.

If that upsets people, then they should look inside and ask why.


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1879 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I work in the local ER. I read every patient's chart for my job, billing/coding and documentation auditing. I am waiting for the day OW comes in for vaginal and/or rectal foreign body, dislocated jaw from giving oral sex, or amoebic dysentery!!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope the slut dies.....a slow, drawn out painful death. I hope she knows it's going to happen and has time to think about it the damage she helped bring to my family.
I hope she looses everything! She shouldn't be allowed to live.


^^^^^^^^Ditto


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1355 | Registered: Dec 2012
Gman1
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I too wanted to get my hands on the OM and I'm not sure what would have happened. Fortunately for me, he lived 2500 miles away so a physical confrontation was not going to happen without an airplane ride which I wasn't willing to do. But, I was able to get my justice through a calculated exposure campaign which resulted in him calling begging me to stop and profusely apologizing. He told me that nothing he could ever do would make up for his mistake and that he was very sorry and that he deserved everything I had done. An apology was all I ever really wanted and when I got it all my rage was gone instantly. It was a huge step forward for my personal healing and I am working quickly towards indifference with the OM now.

Posts: 204 | Registered: Oct 2013
BPhoenix
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by BPhoenix at 5:42 PM, April 13th (Sunday)]


Me - BS 28
Him- WH 28 (TheBatCave)
1 amazing 5yr old
DDay 2/6/14 TT still going on:
25+ affair partners, over 100 sexual affairs, bipolar sex addict.

Posts: 23 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: East coast
BreatheAgain10
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just hope she's miserable, broke, lonely and suffers heartbreak worse than she helped inflict on me. I also hope her obese ass develops all the diseases that will threaten her life like diabetes, heart disease, and overall inability to move around as she's so damn huge it hurts! I hope her skank ass gets a terrible std from her whoring around with random dicks on the Internet.
I hope she somehow realizes that I'm better than her in EVERY WAY and that her brief moments with my fWH, were due to HIS brokenness and inability to handle a strong dominant personality like mine, NOT because she's in any way able to compete with me on MY level!

Gosh, I'm mean! LOL
But only when it comes to that OW (ogre woman)
Rant over.


By God's blessing we've survived, but the scars are still tender to the touch.
BW: Me 34yrs FWH: 29yrs
Latest D-Day 04/29/2010
Together: 12yrs Married: 10yrs
DS:16yrs DS:9yrs. DS:Due 6/25/14
Main D-Day that hurts is #4 4/29/10
OW=Yuck!

Posts: 262 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Sunny So. Cal.
Furious1
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With OW#4 (my sister), definitely yes. It does help a little that I know her life actually is miserable. Her BH can't stand her. She posts and tweets all the time about how he constantly tells her that the only reason he stays with her is because she is the mother of his kids. Instead of divorcing her, he works out of state with their grown son. When they do come in to visit, him and their son stay with his family. Her daughter can't stand her and lives several hours away. I see her kids more than she does.

My sister has been arrested for dealing drugs (Ice form of meth) out of her home. When her kids were small, the state took them away from her several times for abuse. She is a pain pill addict who routinely messes herself when she's in a stupor. She's always broke. Always begging for money. She's been in and out of more hospitals and rehabs than I can count. She use to be a regular at the free STD clinic.

When people find out for the first time that we are sisters, I always get asked how it's even possible because we are nothing alike. She's the scum of the county who doesn't even get invited to jury duty while I'm the local girl who did good for herself.

My sister is her own worst enemy. I'm just waiting for the day when I read about her in the paper again. I figure she'll either die in an overdose, a car accident while under the influence, or in a blaze of bullets when the second bank heist she tries to pull goes wrong. (She got out of the first one by turning state's evidence.)

With the other OW, I figure they are their own worst enemies too. I won't shed a tear for any of them (my sister included).


BW: 41
WH: 48
Married 18 years. SD: 25 from his 1st. M. DS: 20 from 1st M. DD: 16 (autistic)

D-day: Oct. 2013 with ongoing revelations.
6 affairs, 1 OC, My sister was OW#5 with countless attempted A's.
Considering R but fully ready to D.


Posts: 276 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: United States
BreatheAgain10
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, Furious1! Just. WOW.
Your sister is living the nightmare many of us wish on the OP.
That's karma!


By God's blessing we've survived, but the scars are still tender to the touch.
BW: Me 34yrs FWH: 29yrs
Latest D-Day 04/29/2010
Together: 12yrs Married: 10yrs
DS:16yrs DS:9yrs. DS:Due 6/25/14
Main D-Day that hurts is #4 4/29/10
OW=Yuck!

Posts: 262 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Sunny So. Cal.
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would wish harm to the AP if it would help me forget that my wife was the one who really fucked me over, but I haven't managed to forget that yet. There are a thousand men in this town alone who would have happily slept with her, so I won't even pretend that he's anything unique or special.

So my focus is on what she's doing to heal the damage.

The OM can live, die, thrive, flounder, get elected to high office, go to jail, join SI and bare his soul, whatever. I would have said something much different this time last year, but today I really don't give a damn. It helps that we've never met I guess.

I realize that a lot of you are suffering from double betrayals and that for you, it's much harder. You have my sympathies. This shit is hard enough when you can't even picture the AP's face. I'd probably be singing a different tune if he was someone close to me.

I'm focused on my wife and the fact that we're reconciled and moving forward.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 8:26 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
PMs with men only, please
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

Posts: 1357 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
Oftencheatedon
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was on the prowl because her husband left her to marry his secretary. How horrible a person do you have to be to intentionally inflict that pain on another?

She ended up losing custody of her son who was about 9 which destroyed her. Not that her ex was any better. Felt sorry for the child to have two such sucky parents.


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