D-day: Oct. 2013 with ongoing revelations.
6 affairs, 1 OC, My sister was OW#5 with countless attempted A's.
Considering R but fully ready to D.
However, I have many friends at the restaurant she and my husband worked at and since their working together was not going to be an option for me, I asked my husband to request a transfer. Instead, his boss transferred her to another restaurant. I also know the manager at her new restaurant, whom I informed of the real reason for her transfer and guess who gets the shittiest stations every night and is only making about $60 per shift? Looks like someone is going to have trouble financing her subpar education. And I don't feel bad about that at all.
I had a lot of those same thoughts over the last year. However, I keep coming back to the fact that my fWW is the OW to her AP's BW. I would hope she wouldn't wish harm on my fWW.
This exactly, just changing the genders. I've actually never wished harm on OW. I've had some very very negative feelings toward her, but for me to think that she deserves any harm because of her actions would mean that FWH deserves the same. He doesn't and neither does she.
She's a person who I don't like and never will, but I don't hope anything bad happens to her. In fact, for her BS's and her children's sake, I hope it doesn't.
I stalk that motherfucker's FB daily, still, after 15 months, with grim hope that his hypothetical syphillis has somehow progressed to cancer. I've actually spent a disturbing amount of time at work thinking about how easily I could destroy him if I saw fit. Clever, subtle ways to completely fuck up his life without him ever knowing it was me. It was pretty sickening, and nothing was ever executed, but I suppose his transgressions warranted such thinking. If I ever met him in person though... fuck.
Anyway, you're obviously not alone here. I hope you, as a Christian, quietly take some comfort in knowing that she'll burn in Hell for all eternity.
DDay #1- 6/09 PA
DDay #2- 3/13 EA
Still riding the roller coaster of ambivalent limbo.
[This message edited by Thella at 9:48 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]
Well, Shrek attempted every way known to whores to wreck my marriage. Once I'd finally reached my boiling point, I DROVE THE DAMN KARMA BUS MYSELF!
1. I made 15 copies of every single smutty email, text message, and chat session (about 75 pages each bundle) and mailed them to her parents, sisters & husbands, brothers & wives, her employer, her best friend, the head of the department of the company she was interviewing with at the time, and her ex-husband since they were in a custody battle. Best $100 I ever spent!
2. I reported her behavior on company time using company resources (cell, land line, and expense account) to her employer.
3. I also informed her employer that she was a regular pot smoker and that they might want to random drug test her - they did!.
#2 & #3 got her terminated from a near 6 figure a year job and the packet I sent to the HR department of the potential employer resulted in her not being hired.
Now, after all that she had the nerve to threaten to sue me and since I am in an alienation of affection state, I invited her to do just that so I could sue her ass right back.
The cherry on top was when I also reminded her that I still had about 15 naked pictures she sent to my husband and I was just waiting for a reason to mail those out as well as use them as Exhibits X, Y, & Z.
After DD1, when I contacted the BS of main OW to let him know about the affair, his response was not to engage with me because he had known about it for years himself. Personally I wish that a karma bus would somehow affect HIM. I cannot fathom WHY he never tried to end the affair that his wife had been having with my WS for the entire twelve years of his marriage. He knew about it BEFORE they married. Maybe it was possibly because he was infertile and knew that both their children were a product of OW and my WS?
if i saw one of my wifes OM get hit by a car id quite happily go over to them, pull up a chair, stare in their eyes, and talk smack to them as i watched them die in intense pain.
however, i wouldnt push them in front of that car.
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
4 kiddos in lower 20's
ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."
If it wasn't the AP that my fWW had, it would have been a different AP.
Although, actually... They've been showing a picture of a girl who used stolen credit cards to purchase 1000's of dollars worth of electronics, hoping for info on her ID. And I am pretty sure it's her. But I don't know her real name.
I don't think she's ever been married, though, and she is in her mid-40s. She will probably just continue to be an OW. Such class!
She's a serial OW, but I hope she falls head over heels someday, and then HE cheats on her ass.
I also hope that potential OW has many friends that egg him on saying "What your girl doesn't know wont hurt her" "If she really cared about you she'd be out partying with you instead of worrying about her job" and "You should totally hook up with her, she's a fun girl"
(all things the wannabe's friends said to my fiance when she was throwing herself at him and he was telling her no)
Stupid skank. I hope she falls into a sinkhole deeper than her cavernous vagina.