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User Topic: Screw You Uterus!
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, obviously a vent, but my PMS is just off the hook. It will start up to 2 weeks before Nature show's up. I have literally a 2 second fuse, my moods are beyond up and down.

I will cry at a drop in the hat, and the shame i have when my mouth opens before i stop and breathe. My kids have taken a few shots and this KILLS me. Kills me.

The doc says that the only thing that would work would be the pill - but I can't do that either because being on the pill means instead of 2 weeks it would be a emotional roller coaster 24/7.

This morning was a perfect example. I woke up almost 45 minutes late, only to find that DD peed the bed. I felt so bad for her, she feels so bad when she does this, she say's mommy i was a bad girl ...i told her no, that it was just an accident, and we ran into the shower.

I told DH right when i got out that I was super late and needed his help with DS (get him clothes, feed and get him something to drink, ect). Yet, all I got this morning was that he helped DS put his shoes on..../eyeroll. DS can put his own shoes on.

But this pushed the big PMS button and i friggen steamed out of the room. He tried to engage me, but i just stood there silent, knowing that if i opened my mouth, shit would pour out like the river Nile and it wouldn't have anything to do with what i was really feeling.

I evenually texted him that I really needed his help this morning, and it hurt me that he wouldn't get out of bed to help me. His response is "you know i don't get up well" and I texted back, "No, you dont' get up well when it doesn't suit you. You never have an issue getting up at 3am to go hunting, or get up at 6am on the weekends when you voluteer to work at the PD."

I just want this crap to go away....i try to breathe, I try to seperate myself from the stress so i dont blow my top - but damn it I wish there was something I could take that would calm me the fuck down these 2 weeks of pre- hell.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, as I hit Menopause with a vengeance, I am starting to believe God gave women hormones as a protective device. A way to keep us from being complete doormats. Not saying that hormones should be an excuse for bad behavior. But in the situation you described, not dumping a pile of urine soaked sheets on his sleeping head IS control in my mind.

Cut yourself a little slack and when you can, talk to your husband about the morning thing. That is not an excuse to not be helpful. I suck at mornings and yet manage to get up and do what needs to be done to get to work. He has essentially told you that helping his children (it is not helping you, it is for the kids) is not a priority. Nuh unh.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6604 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But in the situation you described, not dumping a pile of urine soaked sheets on his sleeping head IS control in my mind.

It would have probably happened if I had not already put them into the wash.

It's not the only thing though. Like, I took the time to make his lunch today, and because he was all huffy that i was huffy - he left it. So my emotional unrational brain was all like "Mother F'er, if i knew you were going ot leave it here i would not have spent the 10 minutes I needed to get that thing ready for you...thanks for wasting my friggen time"......

Knowing full well that he didn't leave it on purpose. He dosn't take a lunch all the time, so he probably just didnt even think about it.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been known to write nasty words using condiments on my husbands sandwiches.

Passive Aggressive, yes. But I figured it was better than screeching the actual words at him before breakfast. By the time he eats his sandwich, the word is all smeared, I am over it and nobody is the wiser.


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Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6604 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think your uterus is to blame for this one. Fuck you needed help and he didn't help. I would have had a high speed come apart on his laying in bed ass.

I have been known to just walk out when H pulls shit like that. I need your help I'm running late I need you to do x y and z. And then he doesn't do it? Uh uh. I don't play that game. Esp when he gets my full attention every damn time he can't find his glasses, keys, or head.

Yah I think he is real lucky. You know maybe your fuse is short because he isn't doing his fair share..... Just sayin.


Me: FBS
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Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Have you tried different pills? Ortho Tri-cyclen made me violent. Like, literally throwing things violent. Ortho Cyclen? Lovely. But I can't use generics. Too much variation allowed between pills, I can't tolerate that much variation from day to day. I have other friends who could not handle triphasic pills.

ETA: Sorry if this is pushy! I just know - for me - what definitely did NOT work!

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 4:00 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday)]


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

being on the pill means instead of 2 weeks it would be a emotional roller coaster 24/7.

The first time I went on BC I felt this way. Hated it. Felt like a nut job. When I stopped that pill I felt like I was detoxing.

But now I'm on a different pill, and it's the opposite effect. Even when I wasn't sexually active, my doc and I opted that I should stay on it, because, in her words, "It's easier than finding you a psychiatrist to get you on a mood stabilizer."

Talk to your doctor about trying something different than you've been on before.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 7:42 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday)]


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might want to try a pill that is Monophasic (doesn't change doses) and stay on it ALL the time.

Or you could try Prozac; it's FDA approved for severe PMS.

[This message edited by purplejacket4 at 12:15 AM, April 3rd (Thursday)]


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Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2238 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My psychiatrist put me on Zoloft for anxiety and premenstrual dysphoric disorder. The stress and anxiety I suffered after D-day pushed my barely there PMS to extreme measures. By the time I got help, she said I had PMDD.


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DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This isn't a hormone problem. It's an inconsiderate spouse problem. Hint: the inconsiderate spouse isn't you.


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have other friends who could not handle triphasic pills.

My OB/GYN says that Triphasic pills do not work for a lot of women, because it makes them very emotional.

(((Undefinabl)))


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate my uterus, too.

I have a fibroid that measured 4.1 cm in 2011. I was put on Safryl (BC) to manage it, because I'm one of the lucky few who gets to FEEL THAT FUCKER when it starts starving for blood supply.

My ob/gyn won't remove it because I am not a mother yet, and with it being embedded in my uterine wall, he fears I'll lose my uterus in surgery.

Sunday started a daily AYFKM pain streak. Always at 2 am. Well, Tuesday night's events took me into "I want to die now" land. 2 vicodin and 15ml of lortab elixir and at 530 am I could finally breathe.

I could not go to work, but I could breathe.

I had an appt with the Ob/Gyn yesterday afternoon for a colposcopy (yay!), and we discussed the evil alien creature that habitates in my uterus. So, today I'm the lucky recipient of a transvaginal sono so we can measure it again, and make sure it hasn't had babies.


My PMS has also been OOC since I turned 35. I am laughing one minute, and the next minute I'm in a seeing red rage. For no reason other than I see a piece of lint on the floor, and my brain immediately thinks "OH GREAT, I GUESS I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN FUCKING CLEAN IN THIS PLACE!"

So....yeah. Fuck you, uterus.


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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My psychiatrist put me on Zoloft for anxiety and premenstrual dysphoric disorder. The stress and anxiety I suffered after D-day pushed my barely there PMS to extreme measures. By the time I got help, she said I had PMDD.

i am actually going to the Gyn on Monday and will discuss this. We are working on getting my thyroid in order, so am not sure if that will throw it off again.

Yah I think he is real lucky. You know maybe your fuse is short because he isn't doing his fair share..... Just sayin.

This isn't a hormone problem. It's an inconsiderate spouse problem. Hint: the inconsiderate spouse isn't you

To be fair, I knew going into life with him that mornings are pretty much off limits for any assistance from him. He is an afternoon/night guy, and he actually ends up doing 90% of putting the kids in bed and stuff like that, while i also head off to bed. So, normally, I am cool with doing mornings by myself, no worries.

The thing that pissed me off is that I really NEEDED him that morning, and so my fuse was already non-existant with the PMS, but man, his lazy ass just put me over the to.

My PMS has also been OOC since I turned 35. I am laughing one minute, and the next minute I'm in a seeing red rage. For no reason other than I see a piece of lint on the floor, and my brain immediately thinks "OH GREAT, I GUESS I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN FUCKING CLEAN IN THIS PLACE!"

I relate to this 100%....the only way to help my moods is to not talk and clean.all.the.time. It sucks, i mean just sucks.


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New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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