Well, I didn't have the constant put downs to deal with. I know he knew better than that. But he really didn't have to say much, as I just never felt good enough anyway. Not to be shallow and all about looks, but we were-still are an attractive couple. I'd say, 8 as well.
I felt we wasted so many years not communicating. Like he never really opened up to me. Now I know it's because he probably was hiding things all along.
Before we were married, but in supposed committed 8 year relationship, he met someone (younger than him), was going to leave me for her. I moved out, got a new job, was halfway gone. But I was afraid of losing him, so I begged, made of fool of myself and he took me back and ended it with the OP. I was so wrong... He should have have been the one to beg for me to come back... I know that now. And I know he wouldn't have, which would have given me my life to find a happier relationship.
Realize the age difference makes it hard. He is not as mature as you-even though you are not kids, it is still true.
Truly if you think that you will lose him over not looking a certain way, do you really want him? Surely there are men that will find that you have more to offer than that!