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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My IC suggested this and it starts every day with "Morning Papers" where you write anything for 3 pages first thing when you wake up. I guess this has been quite transformational for some people.

Anyone done this or heard about it?


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.


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Skye
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I had an IC who suggested it. It didn't work for me--I'm a talker and need feedback to my thoughts. I find I only write down bad stuff and it doesn't help to go back to read that. It is like journaling which so many get help from. Has she asked you to draw anything, yet. That came next for me, and I can barely draw stick figures, so again, it wasn't good for me. And, again, it works for so many. I really liked my IC so I did try, but....

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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no drawing yet...
but I do like to write... not sure i'd write all bad stuff but I think I'll try it.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ive been doing this for four days and I can't believe the vitriol that is coming out. I hate him is on every page. Jeez!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.


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Skye
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

rachel, I'm not surprised. I remember when I did some journaling and years later found the journal. It spiraled me down. Maybe enough journaling gets rid of the triggers, though. Hope some journalers chime in!

Also, just a bit of wisdom given to me once: Be sure anything you write down is destroyed before you die unless you don't mind it being read!!!


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, i've filled quite a few pages. And I do feel an overwhelming urge to purge my closets. Trip to goodwill planned for today.
not much new on the limbo front though.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.


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Ellejay
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron

It has pride of place in my study. It is a course in recovering your creativity/self/power. It take a little discipline at first but I can absolutely recommend it.

Your post has made be drag it out again and revisit the principles, so thank you!

Ellejay

[This message edited by Ellejay at 12:00 PM, April 12th (Saturday)]


Married 25 years now divorced.
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Nothanks
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Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is a fantastic book I picked up a while back. There are various versions of it, but it's usually titled "365 days of sketching/thought/lists etc". Essentially each page has a instructions for you to follow and complete the task in the page. ie. draw how you felt when you woke up to your first exotic vacation. It's good to let your creativity juices a-flow.

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