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User Topic: What's going on?
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Itís either a bad year for him, he has really bad luck or something is making him very absent mindedÖ. He rear ended a school bus this am and totaled his new car. He is ok, no kids on bus.

Many of you know he went running outside in January and broke his leg when he fell on the ice. He has never done anything like this before. And Iíve had to tell him the same thing several timesÖ Iím sure heíll make some sort of connection. I donít need or want to do that for him. Or, he has a medical condition. I'm worried about him.

Whatever your truth is, you canít outrun it. It parks itself in your brain until it comes out a different way. Believe me, Iíve tried. If he doesnít think he can get over this, doesnít want to be married to me, has more to tell me, whatever, I hope he deals with it for his own sake.

or, I'm totally over-thinking all this.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4902 | Registered: Dec 2010
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bet he is completely absent minded....I know I went through a very long period of time in a foggy state lol.

Whatever your truth is, you canít outrun it.

But this ^^ is true no matter what. If you do not face your truth your truth will eventually face you.

(((hugs))) Rachel. I am glad nobody was hurt.


ďAnd the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossomĒ
AnaÔs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3800 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Rachelc)) I am so sorry you are hurting right now. I hear the struggle you have going on. I pray you can find peace soon. Keep hanging on.

Glad you hubby is ok.


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1470 | Registered: Jun 2012
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad he is ok. That stinks that he totaled his new vehicle.

I get what you are saying, I really do. But you know you can't make him do anything he doesn't want or isn't ready to. He may be having a lot of internal struggle and conflict right now, thus the absentmindedness.

I would take him to the Dr though, just to be sure. Things like swings in Testosterone (not that I am on the low T bandwagon) or thyroid can cause you to be a bit foggy.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8450 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But you know you can't make him do anything he doesn't want or isn't ready to.

oh yes. I do know this.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4902 | Registered: Dec 2010
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