He bought a huge $500,000 house on five acres of land for OW and himself. Her kids lived with them for a few years but now one moved in with her boyfriend and I don't know where the other one is living. He bought a boat, has a new SUV, other vehicles. Tanning bed! He makes between $150,000-200,000 plus her salary all to himself. Will be retiring soon with a lot of money stashed in his retirement fund. Getting married to OW next month. He begged my kids to attend by text message, they refused. He is very upset by this, very angry.
It's not the life I wanted because my life was my family and always will be but that's what he wanted and he got it. He drinks a lot and go to bars with OW and spends tons of money at restaurants, shopping, etc. I think he wanted someone who was a party girl and not family oriented. That's what he has now. I believe he is happy. But he has no family anymore. And who knows what the future brings but for now, he is "living the life" but that's not my kind of "living" or "life."
His dream was to sell everything and live on the boat, sail around the world, play music and harbor hop... I wasn't enthused. We weren't experienced sailors by any stretch of the imagination, there were no facilities on the boat, no toilet, shower, no fridge...and no plans to change any of that. 'Cause you know roughing it was part of the fun... Me? I like camping and all, but not when your limited to 30 feet and have to give up your home and family. I kind of like seeing my kids, and grand kid once in awhile, besides, I can think of better ways to go than being lost at sea because fucklenuts thought he was a sailor after a couple seasons tooling around the harbor.
So anyway, Dday, D and He is living the dream! From what I gather, he lived on the boat thru the winter here in the northeast, peeing over the side and shitting in a kitty litter box.
Meanwhile after a year of scrimping and saving, I just crossed the Iceland off the bucket list! Woot!
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My favorite though was RIGHT after he left, he went out and bought himself a Dodge Durango. Because I "wouldn't let him have his dream car." no, i wouldn't, because those years had bad transmissions. He bragged about that are like crazy. It was hit, with no note left, 3 or 4 times. They found sugar in the gas tank. All the electronics on it went out randomly. He hit three deer. AND, had to replace the transmission. All this within 8 months or so. They repossessed it.
So, now he's looking for his "true love" the one who will make life perfect, all the time. Because, if he could just find her his life would be perfect. I was the source of ALL his problems. But...6 yrs later, my life is good. I haven't seemed to have ruined my new husband's life either!
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
Dumbass works with OW slunt and she actually is still his secretary even though the entire office hates her. She knows his entire schedule - every meeting, every appearance, every everything. He has zero freedom at work and that is precisely why she's still there.
They live together in a teeny little house along with her two kids and mine when they go there EOW.
Douche bought the house and had to ask his father - from whom he is usually estranged - for a loan for the down payment.
Even though he bought the house, the slunt feels like its hers. So, she took over the master bedroom and lets him throw all of his shit in the spare room that DS uses when he's there.
The slunt lost her license for a while so he was forced to also cart her stupid ass around.
On certain days, he takes her kids to school before he has to drop mine off to catch their buses. Mind you, he lives about 20 minutes away. This is so that the slunt can have a kid free morning to get ready.
The kids all do chores when they are there. They tell me that dad does chores too. When I asked what the slunt does, they said "she decorates.".
When my kids are there for a dinner and hers are not, the slunt does not eat with them and either goes to lay down or take a bath. Meanwhile, dummy makes them plain noodles.
Eyewitnesses have seen her scream at him in a crowded grocery store. People have also seen him out paying for drinks while her and her slutty friends sit at a bar, ignore him, and throw back shots.
She openly mocks him on her FB page.
She has said on another social media outlet that the ONLY people that matter in the world are her and her kids. No mention of him in that sentence.
Bottom line is that he got busted banging the office pump who was single, looking for a daddy for her kids and a KISA for herself. He was stupid enough to take a big dump right where he eats and got stuck with a bat shit crazy slunt who isn't gonna let him go until she's used him all up and spit him out. My biggest hope is that one of them will start cheating soon. In fact, DD tells me that he comes into her room in the mornings and reads his phone while hes in there. My IC said the same thing I did - "he's hiding something."
He doesn't have DD though. I win.
DD#1 2/23/13, online EA. Claimed NC but A continued until 3/20/13 when OW called it off. DD#2 4/4/13.
DD #3 9/21/13 2nd EA (with employee). He leaves.
He moved from a large house with A/c to a small house with no A/c and complained bitterly all last summer. Yes, I am hoping for a scorcher this year.
Instead of me supporting his kids, and seeing them all the time, HE is now supporting OW's two grown kids who live with them full time and don't work. His own kids rarely see him.
He now has to pretend to love country music, which he hates, because that's what OW likes.
He now has to pretend to love all sports, which he hates, because that's what OW likes.
He complains to DD that OW doesn't contribute anything to the household expenses, she only pays for her personal items like clothes and makeup. He has to pay for everything else.
And oh yeah.... there was that woman who called my number looking for him, in regards to "an urgent court matter". Not sure what that's about, but I was very happy to help in providing her with his cell number, new address, and employer name.
Live it up, XWH. You are starting to get the life you deserve....
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
My ex is 41 years old and living with mom and dad again. I have no problem with adults living at home - but he has never lived on his own. When he is in between women, he ends up back with his parents.
He has no job and a bad back. Most of the work he has skills for is manual labor jobs and that's kind of hard to do with a bad back.
He has no money, no savings, no retirment accounts... I supported us on my income and he didn't have to work. He did sporadically, but anything he made was "fun" money.
He's had to give up all his hobbies because he can't afford them anymore.
He left because he wanted to be a full-time dad to OC. That lasted about a year before OW kicked him out for good. Now he only gets to see OC one night a week for a few hours and every other weekend.
He is tied to a batshit crazy woman forever because of OC. She is hgh drama, high maintenance, dumb as shit and belittles him and he has to deal with it because he is afraid she will find a way to keep him from OC if he doesn't. He hates her family, as well.
There are a lot of other little things, too. I try to remind myself of it when it gets me down. He was always really good with kids and I always thought he would be a great dad. Sometimes it stings knowing that OW at least got a great dad for her kid, even if he was a shitty boyfriend. I am at the point that I don't even know if I'll ever have a family.
I know my ex loves OC - she is really all he has left that is valuable in his life. I know it kills him that he can not provide for her the way he thinks she deserves to be spoiled. I wanted to R and I would have welcomed OC into my life - I hope he thinks about it every day that together, we could have given OC a lot more than she has now.