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User Topic: OW just gave me a huge smile
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't react to her at all - not even smile back. I'm not going to give ANY effort to her feelings.

rachelc I am standing and applauding you right now!

She is a F&*^%$# B*&$#!!!!

BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person

Posts: 345 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: North Carolina, United States
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought you were a big proponent of intimate conversations?

I am. But if my husband saw OM you can bet that would be the focus. And we wouldn't be discussing how much I didn't trust him, or anything of that nature.

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”

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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just read your other post.

Yesterday hubby and I spoke of the mental gymnastics one has to do to stay in a marriage where there has been betrayal. It's very unfair. It breeds resentment.

Maybe this is just more mental gymnastics, however...

It sounds like your H's primary need in M at this moment is Trust, and he defines Trust as not having his telephone, Facebook and LinkedIn "checked" by you; and your primary need ATM is Safety, and you define Safety as living and working in a place that doesn't involve OW (x2) sightings.

Neither of you are having your needs met by the other. Ouch.



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