Just read your other post.
Yesterday hubby and I spoke of the mental gymnastics one has to do to stay in a marriage where there has been betrayal. It's very unfair. It breeds resentment.
Maybe this is just more mental gymnastics, however...
It sounds like your H's primary need in M at this moment is Trust, and he defines Trust as not having his telephone, Facebook and LinkedIn "checked" by you; and your primary need ATM is Safety, and you define Safety as living and working in a place that doesn't involve OW (x2) sightings.
Neither of you are having your needs met by the other. Ouch.