BS (me) 40
OW - a friend of WH for 5 years
4 month EA which turned into a 5 month PA
Us together 20 years, married 17 and 6 kids
I always thought I was enough but obviously not!
Your D-Day is very recent, a matter of a week or two?
The images will stop, but it is going to take a great deal of time and a great deal of work on the part of your WH to help you feel safe.
Keep in mind he is not trustworthy at this point, his words are meaningless, it will be his consistent actions that will give you some peace in the future and help with the mind movies.
No advice really as I'm going through the same thing....I'm 3 months out from DDay and even though I still have images in my head everyday they are getting a little less frequent it used to consume my every thought but now it pops up like every hour or two which still seems like a lot but considering everything to me those hours I get thinking about something ele are wonderful!!!......and when I do think about it I just grab up one of my babies and squeeze them or call up a friend.....it usually helps me. So sorry you're going through this
I have found that keeping busy at work is good for me during the day. In the evenings, letting off steam here or with a friend is a great way to cope. I've also been reading to and playing with my kids more often. The middle of the night mind movies are the hardest. I've been watching alot of Netflix.
Hang in there, stunnedmullet. They say we will be OK.
It Doesn't Last Forever.
You Wont Always Feel This Way.
There Will Be A Day When You Don't Think About This At All!
It's been almost 3 years, and I can truly say that it was the worst thing I have ever had to deal with, but now, I don't think about them, or her, at all. It doesn't invade my every waking moment, it doesn't define my life or my marriage. In fact it really feels now like something that happened to someone else, and not me at all.
If he is repentant, you will know by how he acts. And if you both are willing, then by all means, push through this. It took, for me, about a few months until it wasn't on my mind every minute. Then about a year until I only thought about it once or twice a day. A little more time ... once every few weeks, and now very rarely do I think of it, and if so, its more like a fact then a feeling. You will be OK. You will be yourself again. You will be able to help scrape others off the floor someday too, and be thankful that you made it out. Praying for you.