Now, over the next few years, I did NOT touch people's phones. When my Aussie and I got together he'd ask me to hand him his phone and I'd refuse. I was not going to do it. I eventually explained why and he understood, and after awhile, I could do it. I could touch the phone, I could hand it to him. I could answer it and answer texts. Which I thought was pretty great.
Saturday Aussie, XH, and I were all at the boys' soccer games. DS8 wants indoor soccer shoes. Aussie said he'd buy them, but he wanted to know what the difference between indoor soccer shoes and regular gym shoes was. I didn't know. So, I turned to x, who knows a lot about soccer. I asked him. He grabbed his phone and explained, showed me some pics of the different shoes, told me what to look for. The shoes DS8 wanted were a pair XH pulled up so, without thinking I said "hey gimme your phone." and he handed it over, I took it and showed H the shoes.
It was about an hour later I realized...I wasn't scared of XH anymore.
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
So, we are finalizing our D (YEAH!!!!), and his L actually is in my city, while my L is in my marital city. So ex wanted me to go to HIS L's office to sign paperwork. I refused. My L wants to read everything I sign.
That started 20 minutes of him berating me about what I should do. I finally said, "It is MY decision. Stop bullying me."
He immediately went into defense mode, "But, but, but…I was only trying to SAVE YOU MONEY."
I and walked away. The old cmego would have argued with him. The new one knows he is just a big bully.
Yeah for growth!
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana
He should buy the shoes.
Yeah, well when you figure out how to make him do so let me know. He doesn't even pay child support and when I haul him back to court for nonpayment, he pays me $10 each week for 2-4 weeks, the judge tells him to do better, and tells me that the $10 shows he's trying. This has happened multiple times now.
I wasn't scared of XH anymore.
this is awesome!
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Your wxh is such an asshole.