FYI We were NOT MARRIED, together for 8 years but do not live in a state that recognizes common law marriage.
I found e-mails between them.
I read somewhere keep it a minimum of 30 days and then you can toss it.
I'm not a lawyer so I can't be 100% on that; but if he's left it since Feb 22 why in the world should you have to hang on to it?
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
I would send him an email saying he has until April 15th to remove any of his belongings from your house. After that date, you will dispose of them as you see fit and he will have no claim on them.
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 5:48 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs
I edit often for clarity.
You moved out on X Date and left personal belongings in my home. It is now Y date.
You have until Z date to come get them or I will consider it abandoned property and will dispose of it as I see fit.
Burn in Hell,
Burn in Hell,
Pick a date that is convenient for you. Email him - make sure you're using a current email address, tell him that he has until that particular date (make sure it's two weeks past date you send the email) to get his stuff.
Make sure you have a read receipt or something like that on it. If you use Outlook you'll have that function. I don't know with gmail, yahoo or any of those though.
just post that shit on ebay. A bunch of books and stuff? Really?
He's been gone for two months already. Your home is not a storage unit.
Wanna hear a cool story about *someone I know*
She sold online an heirloom family quilt from her hated former MIL. Handmade, Gorgeous.
Also several items were thrown in the dumpster, including his baby pictures and his medals from his time in the service. I seriously dgaf.
I am not going to email or phone somebody to come get their own stuff, I do not play pattycake with grown men. If you don't care about your own personal property why should I?
He never did call me about all that. I always wondered if he just left it here as some kind of game.
F&*k what the law says, especially when the cost of filing small claims is $35. Do you really think he's going to do that over books? Is it fair to you to have to look at this junk every day? He should have gotten it within, TOPS, a week after moving out. Common sense dictates this is just ridiculous. At this point even if he called I think you should just not answer. Or if he does, just tell him you donated all those books to the library a month ago when you were spring cleaning.
Haha I love the attitude in your post. However, he has a ton of textbooks here from graduate school, and some of them I might be able to get some decent money for. in addition, he left his expensive computer ($1,300), but he also purchased a few years ago so I could use it for my graphic design/web design classes. So I'm thinking that it was a GIFT to me, which means I should be keeping it, right? : )
I've been on a legal message board as well trying to get advice on how to deal with the whole expensive computer issue. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated, just PM me!
How long has it been since he moved out?
Have you been in contact with him at all?
Under 10k is small claims. And there is no criminal law here, he would have to file civil. Because there's no breaking and entering etc. You didn't "take" anything.
Really as much talk on here as there is about a "wayward" mindset I think there is a "betrayed" mindset. We care way too much about what somebody might do or say or what might happen.
Do you really think he is going to do anything? Block his number. Sell his stuff. I would get on top of those textbooks, they come out with new editions all the time, making the old ones worthless.Get your $$$ honey.
edit: you can use that computer for your graphic design business??? Oh. honey. Is this even a question?
You've had the locks changed right?
[This message edited by absolut at 10:49 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]
About the computer? WellÖ Just use it. If he asks for it then stall or make it conditional to him removing all of his stuff.