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User Topic: what I have learned
aero1122
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 4 months from d-day and this is what I have learned:

1. I am stronger than I ever knew

2. I believe in myself

3. I am a good person who did not deserve this no matter how rough our relationship was before the A

4. My life was not as good as I thought it was but it will be better moving forward. I have removed my blinders and see things more clearly now

5. Taking time for myself is not selfish

6. I dont know how I would have gotten through this if I hadn't found this website. Everyone on here has been so supportive and open with their experiences and offering suggestions for coping and I greatly appreciate all of you

7. I am a survivor!

I know there is a lot of work to still to be done but this is where I am at today!

[This message edited by aero1122 at 12:05 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]


Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R

I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!


Posts: 101 | Registered: Dec 2013
struggling3
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Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay you aero1122....to have this knowledge after 4 months is such a great start to R. Are you getting help and support from your WS?


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 29, 26, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 319 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Steve55
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Member # 41621
Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah!

That should be our mantra on here. I know I need to do those things.


Posts: 113 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: West Coast
LeftOutintheCold
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Member # 42856
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!! That is awesome!! Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope that I may make it as well.


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
aero1122
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Member # 41575
Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am getting support from my WH. We are working on us and moving forward with counseling and transparency.

I read something similar when I first found SI and
I thought how will I ever be there but I am well on my way to healing.

I know I am only 4 months out and still have bad days and triggers but I am getting better and know I will be ok as long as I continue on this path.


Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R

I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!


Posts: 101 | Registered: Dec 2013
yme32313
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Member # 42091
Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I learned time really does heal all wounds, I thought I'd never get my life back on track. I'm agree with your list as well. It took some time mine longer than yours but it did improve.


Me: 31
H: 55
Dated: Aug. 2003 M: Mar. 2013
Cheated: While dating

Posts: 181 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New Mexico
krispy47
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Member # 42863
Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have no idea how much hope this gives me. Thanks for your post. I hope I will be able to say the same someday.


Me: 47 WH: 48
Married 22 years, 4 kids
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus rising ONS body count
Status: currently riding the coaster from hell

Posts: 107 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Virginia
NeverAgain2013
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Member # 38121
Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woo hoo! That's great!


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1814 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
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