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User Topic: and it feels so good...
strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently moved back to the city I grew up - to be closer to my parents. S and most likely D has been really hard. The hardest decision I have ever made. I go from moments of relief to anxiety and panic. Anyway, I've felt about down about myself and myself esteem got stomped on after the Dday. But -- I have run into three ex-bf's (from high school - before I met H) and they've all said the same thing, "wow stronger you look amazing, you look great." and I know I shouldn't get my self esteem from someone and it comes from within (blah, blah, blah ) BUT DAMN it felt good. It was such an ego boost. I realized how I let my H hold me back. If I would want to wear my hair down or dress nice for work his attitude would be "which man are doing that for?" and I realized it was his own stupidity, low self esteem and fear that if he had an A I would too. I looked dumpy/frumpy for so long. Those 3 compliments made me realize how much of myself I let go of and let him control during the 10+ years we were together. I've come to the realization that S and D are not a mistake...it actually feels really good.


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 384 | Registered: Aug 2013
norabird
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Cool  Posted: 10:01 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post! Good for you. I see nothing wrong with being glad that these men saw you and responded positively to your new energy. You get to control you now--hallelujah. The more time goes by, the more this awesome feeling will predominate.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4203 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for feeling good!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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