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Reconciliation :
"You're sharing me with her"

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 lucy17 (original poster member #40187) posted at 4:59 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

So true. This was WH's comment when I talk about how unspecial so many things are for us now--sex, kissing, holding hands, going for a drive, texting...... I was explaining that when he sends me a text I think--he sent the same thing to her and so on. He tells me over and over-- when I'm kissing you I'm only thinking about you. Well thank God or we we would need to stop this farce of a M and get D. It still doesn't make it special. I still think if he kissed her the same way. I am sharing him with her, but that was his choice not mine. And at least now I know. He chose to share. Not me. I can only hope it gets better, and if it doesn't be okay and accept what this new relationship with WH is....or leave. I'm not special. I will never again be able to say that my husband loves me so much he would never betray or hurt me or share anything he promised would be just for me with someone else. That's reality. Accept or leave.

“The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." Hemingway
Me- BS 38
Him- WS 44
1 child- 13 years old
together 21 years, legally married 17
Dday1- 7/7/13
Dday2- 8/12/13
The rollercoaster of R

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

That's true, but you get time to figure out what you want to do. Just because you're there now doesn't mean that you're stuck. Just take everything in small bites till the path you really want becomes clear.

(((lucy17)))

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Gotmegood ( member #41407) posted at 5:12 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Yes Lucy, for that time period we were not special to them, and that will always hurt. This is our new irrevocable truth. My personal hope is that going forward the truthfulness, honor and vow to love and protect me I expect to receive from WH make the horror of his betrayal of me diminish in my heart. I hope. And I hope for all of us who try to R.

Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

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