So much has gone on unrelated to A this past month that I am still spinning.
To answer the couple of questions posed recently. My mom has seen the storage units contents. She doesn't know about the A, and I am keeping her in the dark until I know what I am going to do for sure about my Marriage.
She loves antiques and would have loved to take a look so I let it "slip" that WH had the unit. She has "shopped" its contents and it seems to match what he said was inside.
The unit and its contents kinda took a back seat to all of the other stuff that has come up lately. I cant even believe that so much time has passed.
Once it was confirmed that what was inside was his friends stuff, it wasn't what was inside that was a concern it was that he didn't tell me about it. We are dealing with a store that will place the contents on consignment.
NeedAdvise: His take on things is he had turned his back on god for too long and he feels he needs god back in his life in order to help him become the man he SHOULD have been all along.
Im a firm believer in being good for goodness sake. I support his need/desire to get right with god, but in my opinion, his going to church wont make him a better person, being a better person will make him a better person and I have told him just that.
He is going every Sunday and on a Wed. night mens group, which he says is helping him understand how to be a better husband. We will see...
He is still in therapy and so am I. His work schedule has slowed the frequency of his sessions, which has slowed (in my opinion) his progress in communication. I did express to the Therapist that I feel as if we needed to push for MC sooner rather than later because I couldn't take the slow, painful process of waiting for his issues to be worked on first. She realizes that I am on the verge of making a permanent decision before we have tried to work things out professionally together.
My problem is he thinks what he is doing is enough and I don't think its enough. I still go day by day with different feelings and decisions. Im still not emotionally stable and I cant wait any longer to deal with our issues. She has agreed to start MC now so that things can progress faster and as long as he is on his meds, she feels comfortable that he can handle it.
I really need to start a new thread based on the topic of my recent issues.
In a nutshell, my MIL is an evil, manipulative, bitch and has been sabotaging my marriage and my life in ways I didn't even realize.
New Topic to come...