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User Topic: He wants my Apple ID login? Advice please
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can't have aps from two apple id's on a phone, so if he's telling you "some of his aps" he's lying.
You can. You just can't update the ones that are not under the ID you're currently logged in under.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So Gaby, can he delete those from his phone without my ID?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep!
He can delete them at any time. He just can't update the ones under your ID unless he's logged in as you.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm...I have an iphone and I had no idea that was a possibility, so thank you!

I'm assuming that must be with newer IOS software because I remember running in to a problem when my daughter got her ipod and I wanted her to be able to use the aps in my account, since she'd paid for some of them, but be able to use her own messenger. The guy told us that she'd need her own account, which was irritating because she was 10 and their policy was that you had to be 13.


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

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k8la
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a friend who has been stalked by her ex via her I-Phone Cloud access. He's called her new boyfriend, done illegal background checks to anyone who calls her, etc. Do not give him any access at all to your private information.

He doesn't need it for any GOOD reason...


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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone for the tips and advice.

Crickets on that request.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
HopeImOverIt
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What he says seems plausible to me. I've bought things under multiple AppleIDs on my computer; sometimes my kids have itunes credit that they aren't using and I use their ID and credit and give them cash in exchange.

And yeah, a few things that were bought with my ExH's AppleID when we were married will no longer work for me.

I didn't ask for his AppleID because I assumed he would not be willing to give it to me.

I just suck it up and buy them again or do without.

Giving someone you don't trust your AppleID seems crazy dangerous.



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ExWH: (51)
2 teen-age boys
Divorced

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope- you could still delete the apps though, right? Even without their appleID?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It doesn't matter, Nekorb. He could always restore it to factory settings and then sync it. No matter what excuse he gives you, don't give him your information. And if your password is easy to guess, change it. I looked at my icloud account. It has so much information on it that you wouldn't want anyone else to have. Plus he could track your every move using the find my phone app. Just tell him no. Don't log it in for him, don't offer to help him with it. Just tell him no.


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Flowerforme
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nekorb,

He can easily delete the apps from his phone. No password is needed to delete. They will still be in your apple account. If you use them or want to use them.

If he wants to re-install them on his phone, he must use his own account. Anytime you install a new app or a app you previously used, you will be asked for your Apple ID and password. Please do not give him your password and consider changing it to something he can not figure out.

[This message edited by Flowerforme at 10:12 PM, April 10th (Thursday)]


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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Alright. Thank you. Now I feel armed with information!

So ridiculous that we have to go through all of this...


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just reporting back that I held firm.

Yesterday he complained that I didn't tell him I had changed my password. I said I didn't know he needed it/that he had anything under my ID on his account.

Then he complained because he had first asked me about it several days before and I didn't tell him until yesterday. I said my attention was on other things (helloooo- situation with DD!).

He has figured out he's going to have to delete and re-download.

It felt good to set a boundary. If he says anything else about it I'm just going to say that as far as I can see we aren't really sharing passwords and lock codes anymore.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call an Apple Tech

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