I am so sorry. ((((Rugs))))
That is not remorseful behavior and quite frankly seems suspicious. A fWH should not be in a bar with a female EVER again and should certainly not be defensive when asked about it.
I personally would at least 180...but after so much time and rug sweeping....maybe I would just file for D and see if H heard the wake-up call. So sorry you have not gotten what you need and are still in so much pain. Me: BW 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.
His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.