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User Topic: I just don't understand?!
hopefulfourus
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am waiting for the divorce papers to be served, hopefully this week. What I just don't get at all! is the lack of contact that POS has with our kids !

He comes and goes. Today, he came home at 730 pm, showered and left, all within an hour. My daughter and I were on our way out to the store when he walked in. He said hi to her and asked her where she was going. My son stayed home. When we came back from the store, he was gone already. I'm sure I could count the number of words exchanged between my son and POS on one hand.

I have been documenting his comings and goings, and contact, if any, with the kids.

I would miss my kids terribly if we hadn't spoken in days, not that would ever happen anyway. He is just a selfish jerk!

I just needed to get this off my chest. I don't like to wish my life away but I wish these papers would get served and he gets out of my house. Thanks for listening.


Me: BW. 40's
Him: WH POS. 40's
2 kids. DD16, DS14

Don't let my user name fool you...I am NOT hopeful for us at ALL!!


Posts: 62 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: New York
justinpaintoday
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry to you and your children. What a shame.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hope & kids)))


Posts: 34653 | Registered: Mar 2011
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. Your kids are lucky to have such a wonderful mom.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4082 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My kids marveled at all the time & attention their dad finally started showing them once I had him served. They hardly knew what to do with him.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9494 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Leia
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't understand it, either. When my STBXWH was out of town he would hardly ever talk to the kids. Now he wants, and will probably get 50% custody. Before it was nothing for him to accept a 2-3 week out-of-town job. Now he's saying no more to those big jobs. And that he doesn't want to be away from the kids that long. It was hard, but the kids and I adjusted. So no, I don't get it, either. Hang in there. Hugs to you and your kids.


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
ChinaCat
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best wishes for you and your family!
I have no doubt you are doing the right thing!
((Hugs))


"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. I am so sorry. I really feel bad for your kids. I hope they are in IC so they don't internalize and blame themselves for stbx's behavior. It sounds like his head is so far up his ass, he doesn't see how his behavior is hurting the kids. I know because I've BTDT. Sending you "time speed" so he can be served and get the hell out of your house so you and the kids can turn it into a peaceful sanctuary.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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