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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was contacted by someone on OLD. We've been chatting - keeping it very impersonal and light.

He says that I'm "delightful".

Really? Delightful?

Anyone that knows me would know that "delightful" is probably the last word that you would associate with me.

While it's a very nice compliment, it just about put me on the floor with laughter.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7440 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our perception about ourselves can be very wrong

I think you are delightful!

Go with it, don't try to change HIS perception of you.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4051 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Williesmom, you are delightful!!

That is a word you hear more often around the country and likely not much in rough, gruff Western Pa.


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Perhaps you're HIS idea of delightful


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19817 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see nothing wrong with him saying that. Fits. Maybe he has a larger vocabulary than you are used to? Give a guy credit for being expressive.

Then again, I suspect I drive my SO a bit looney.


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9175 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you are peachykeen.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:56 AM, April 11th (Friday)]


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you're badass awesome, but then, I'm not a guy on OLD.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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justjim
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Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently met someone who I would describe as "delightful".

But I won't.

Nope.

Not after this.


Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

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kg201
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe he's a closet Brit?


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 597 | Registered: Aug 2013
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know you. You think it is odd then trust your gut. He may be a good soul or someone not what you thought. Having a sense of humor is good too. If you are judging this early it might be a red flag. Sounds British or again beware if your antennae is saying otherwise. OLD while an avenue we never had in the past still has it's risks.
Have you tried local groups to get involved with, or asked friends and family if they know anyone that you might be compatible with?

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 8:38 AM, April 14th (Monday)]


Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2014
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

British! That's it.

Makes so much more sense. Thanks, gang.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7440 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aaaawwww.....I can see delightful.

We do sometimes perceive ourselves a bit differently than others see us. I feel that sometimes I can be a bitch on wheels. My guy sees that as having spirit. Whatever, works for me....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15118 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
Cally60
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Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

British! That's it.


Really?!

Yet another life lesson from SI. All these years in the States and I had no idea that using "delightful" would blow my cover........

[This message edited by Cally60 at 4:59 AM, April 15th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 2092 | Registered: Mar 2009
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use adjectives like "delightful" all of the time. I really had no idea it was crazy or unbecoming. As a guy, it seems we are darned if we do and darned if we don't. But a red flag? <smh>


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9175 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
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