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User Topic: Thanks (and apologies)
justasinger
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Member # 43031
Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would really like to thank everyone here at SI. Just reading through some of these threads I see how much you guys really care. You have given me hope. Hope in Humanity. I've seen so much cheating and lying and trickery since moving to Vacationland I was starting to wonder if I was the only person left in the world with any morals.
Now for the apology. I've been all over the place emotionally, since joining SI. I pride myself on being a very rational person, but even though it's been over a year since the last DDay, and even though being on SI has been really helpful, I found myself re-living everything that's transpired over the course of this relationship I am in. I've gone from anger, to depression, to feeling great, to hopeless, all in the span of a few hours. Very overwhelming... So I'm feeling bad that you all have had to be party to the 'emotional nutjob', that has been me for the past weekish.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
kbl1301
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Member # 42985
Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thats why everyone is here, to help everyone else because we have and are still going through the same experiences.

Posts: 69 | Registered: Apr 2014
simplydevastated
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Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never apologize for your emotions. You have them for a reason and that's to help you process what goes in your daily life. Don't ever feel that you have to keep everything bottled up, that's not healthy and most times, it will all come exploding out.

SI is a wonderful place to get the emotions out in a positive manner. As you've already said there are a great number of people here who care and it has also given me hope for humanity.

It's been a year since your last day, it's expected for your emotions to be all over the place. I've had multiple ddays and the first one was in 2008. There are some nights I still cry myself to sleep.

Sending you (((hugs))) and strength. You will get through this.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No apologies! We've all been there!!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Justasinger - You are all good, dude. No apologies necessary! I've read some of your posts, and you don't come across as an emotional nutjob to me at all. Despite the circumstances that brought you here, I am glad you found us. You came to the right place. Please feel comfortable to post whatever is on your mind. We're here for you.

Posts: 7216 | Registered: Dec 2010
heforgotme
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uhh...we've all been to the crazy place since this happened, so don't feel bad about that at all.

I'm so glad we've been able to help to and completely concur with:

You have given me hope. Hope in Humanity.


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1081 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, we've all had that seat on the crazy train - that's what makes our perspective so unique.

This is the most caring bunch of folks ever. Even when being harsh, I know that it is meant with my best interests in mind.

After you've emerged from this hell that you're currently in, please pay it forward - there is so much pain and need, especially in JFO.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
justasinger
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Member # 43031
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, best smile I've had in over a year just reading these responses. It feels great to have an actual, genuine smile.


BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: New England
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