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User Topic: First view of STbx and Ap as a couple
kg201
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw my STBX together with her AP today for the first time. She had taken my son to a piano competition while I stayed with the younger kids. When my son returned home I was at the door and saw the two of them in the car. I didn't know that the AP had gone as well. My son saw my face and said that the AP only served as a taxi since his mother was feeling sick. I told him I wasn't angry.

Of course, now I don't know what I am. Maybe more sad than angry, because seeing them as a couple was unexpected. She wasn't flaunting it like the waywards of other SIers, but I guess it just made me think about what she has done to my family.

I had just finished working in the yard and didn't have my shirt on when all this happened. So maybe I can feel better by pretending in my head that she saw my buff body and then turned to her Stay-puffed marshmallow butt of a man and realized she has chosen down.

Oh well


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((kg & kids))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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westgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw my STBXH and his AP in his car about a month ago. They were turning onto a road where I was stopped at a red light. It took me totally off guard and since it was early in the morning, made for a bad start to the day. (and he was turning onto the street where we had lived for 25 years to boot). What got me thru this was the fact that he and her are two home wreckers. Not sure how they get up and look in the mirror in the morning knowing that they destroyed 5 children and two loyal spouses. I can always hold my head up high but those two, if they really look deep inside themselves, or if they wake up some day and realize what they did, can not. And another thing, looking good/buff is the best revenge!

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Thinkingtoomuch
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


So maybe I can feel better by pretending in my head that she saw my buff body and then turned to her Stay-puffed marshmallow butt of a man and realized she has chosen down.

This is true. And made me laugh a little--"stay puffed marshmallow butt".

Xwf is still on match for the last 3 yrs.(yes, I do check once in a while). Makes me feel pretty good, as I know my best qualities, and he'll NEVER find someone like me. Just won't. That's why he still is doing match. I am not egotistical either. He did choose down, and that OW dumped him soon after DD. I had asked him if she knew he was engaged, and he said yes. With all his job hunting experience, I asked, "well what does that tell you about her resume??"

Maybe she was a stay-puffed marshmallow butt also! I'll never know.


[This message edited by Thinkingtoomuch at 10:30 PM, April 13th (Sunday)]


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JerseyCowgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My first sighting was the same...saw them in the truck after our divorce. It brought triggers for a long time.

Please know your post caught my attention so today I will keep you in my thoughts as you work they this
JC


Me: Divorced 2012
I know that when I truly love & honor myself I am at my best & most complete; and I will never settle for anything less from myself or from anyone else ever again!

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