Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 30346
| Posted: 5:08 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4186 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 32789
| Posted: 5:11 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I wish I had more than words of condolence to offer you right now.
As a mother too, my heart is broken for you.
I hope you are with someone who will take care of you in this trying time.
A million healing hugs.
I wish I could do more.
BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 33129
| Posted: 5:18 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
How unbelievable... I am so sorry. My thoughts are with your family. :(
divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Member # 31030
| Posted: 5:19 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
This is beyond comprehension...I'm so very sorry.
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs
Posts: 777 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 28622
| Posted: 5:23 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I am so very sorry! Tears and heartbreak here as well. I wish all of us sharing your pain would make yours more bearable. Unimaginable really...
Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
Posts: 5861 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 34697
| Posted: 5:32 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
Oh god, no. No. No. No.
I just saw this and I'm sending all my thoughts out your way.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 26928
| Posted: 5:33 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
OMG...how much is one family supposed to take?!
My heart broke reading this.
((( Phoenix and family )))
Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs
I edit often for clarity.
Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Member # 2959
| Posted: 5:35 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss Phoenix,, prayers to you your girls and family members.....
Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
Posts: 1608 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
Member # 33887
| Posted: 5:36 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
My heart breaks for you and your family (((Phoenix)))
Me: 37 yo, him 36
Married 14 years together 18
3 kids: DD10, DD7, DS4
DDay 2/9/12 found suspicious text to coworker
Status: in R, work in progress
Posts: 300 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: East Coast
Member # 41102
| Posted: 5:46 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I have no words Phoenix. Just lots of hugs and love.
DD day October 17th (my birthday, lucky me)
Married 9 years, two kids (4 1/2 and 21 months)
He moved out and we're heading for divorce. Currently working through all the fun legal stuff
Posts: 56 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Ontario
Member # 35229
| Posted: 5:48 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
Dear god. This is too much. Too much.
Phoenix - I have no words. No words. I am sitting here in disbelief and grief. Sending you all of the love and strength I can muster. I want you to wake up and have this all be a terrible nightmare.
I just can't believe it. I am so very sorry.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 32046
| Posted: 6:04 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
still praying! My heart is so heavy for you!
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."
Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 32616
| Posted: 6:24 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
So, so sorry Phoenix.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Posts: 3459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Member # 31722
| Posted: 6:27 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
Just saw the news feed. My heart is breaking for you, phoenix.
I cannot express my deep condolences to you, and your family.
No one should have to carry so much burden, but we are all here for you. Wish we could all actually be with you in person.
Sending prayers, and hugs, and more prayers.
Posts: 1304 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 7685
| Posted: 6:28 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
There are no words.. I am so, so sorry. I'm praying for your family and loved ones. I can't even imagine.
Red Headed Imps 10 & 8
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
Posts: 2290 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
Member # 7276
| Posted: 6:34 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I have no words. I'm so sorry.
Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince
Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 34262
| Posted: 6:42 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
So very sorry. Hugs to you and your family.
Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 2244 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
|Grace and Flowers|
Member # 34431
| Posted: 6:57 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
I saw the news link and you sweet, precious, beautiful boy. My boys are 20 as well. I can only imagine the depths of grief you and all your family must be feeling, with so many losses at once. I'm angry and heartbroken, and can only send you love and many, many prayers. I hope our SI hugs will help hold you up.
((((Phoenix and family)))))
[This message edited by Grace and Flowers at 10:47 PM, April 15th (Tuesday)]
I'm Happy, not Sad!
Posts: 1176 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
Member # 99
| Posted: 7:03 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
((((((Phoenix & family)))))
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. This is just incomprehensible. My heart is breaking for you and your family. This is more than anyone should have to bear. Please let your SI family give you prayers and strength to get through this. I simply cannot imagine the heartbreak you are experiencing. Sending thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
Posts: 2482 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
Member # 19595
| Posted: 7:04 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014|
(((Phoenix and family)))
I'm so sorry to hear the news about your DS, brother, and S-I-L.
Sending prayers for you and your family to have the strength you all need to get through each moment.
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
|Topic Posts: 767|