Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 42571
| Posted: 8:58 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am so sorry for all of your pain and losses.
Posts: 68 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: SouthernUSA
Member # 39440
| Posted: 9:11 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am keeping you and your loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.
Posts: 212 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 15300
| Posted: 9:20 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
Ahhhh, Phoenix, my dear.........I know they say God doesn't give us more than we can handle, but you have been thrown problems of Job-like proportions. I don't know if the love and prayers and sympathy of all the members of this site help even a whit, but I like to hope it does. I have tears in my eyes as I write, and I don't even know you or your family. I can't even begin to imagine the pain and sorrow you must be feeling on the loss of your beloved son as well as your brother and his wife. You know if we could lift some of that burden from you, we would. But we can't so the best we can do for you is to be here if you need to talk, and hope and pray that you are stronger than you've ever been. (((((Phoenix and family)))))
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 7163 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 36883
| Posted: 9:26 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I feel selfish typing this out really - My words of love and hope of peace for you and your family - they will never be enough. They will never be able to extend my heart to you the way I wish I could.
I don't know you personally - but as a mother, as a sister, as a sister in law - as a woman of family....my heart bleeds for you.
Please, take care of yourself. Please eat and drink, Please walk around, shower and get dressed, make coffee and sit on a back porch. Please breath - and pray - or meditate - or whatever. Please check in with medical people to get on AD's....please please take care of yourself.
You are loved, you are deeply loved by people that know you and don't know you personally.
Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Posts: 1695 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 39134
| Posted: 9:30 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
My heart is filled with sorrow for you and yours.
I want to send you love and strength.
Hold on to those you love and the memories of those you have loved and who also loved you greatly.
Take care of yourself the best you can.
I will pray for God to take care of you, your beautiful DS, and your family.
DD 1 - 7/7/2004
DD 2 - 10/31/2011
DD 3 - 4/30/2013(or continuation?)(Yes)
DD 4 - 9/25/2013
DD 5 - 2/15/2014 (found phone from 2009)
Posts: 485 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 29288
| Posted: 9:41 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I have struggled for a day or so to figure out something profound to say--but I have nothing. There is no explaining the loss of such a beautiful young man and no words to make it any better. I just hope that you can feel all of the love and prayers that are coming from this community and that they give you some small measure of comfort. (((Phoenix)))
Him--FWH (53)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 20 years
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
Posts: 1283 | Registered: Aug 2010
Member # 30346
| Posted: 9:45 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
Still thinking about you and your family. Just sending more hugs.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4100 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 31094
| Posted: 9:48 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I can't.....I don't...There are no words.
I'm so sorry. So so very sorry.
Posts: 3353 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Member # 6370
| Posted: 10:22 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I cannot imagine ....
I am so very sorry.
"Because I deserve better"
Posts: 957 | Registered: Feb 2005
Member # 30102
| Posted: 10:37 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am so terribly sorry. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers every single day.
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One small kiddo.
Posts: 558 | Registered: Nov 2010
Member # 3075
| Posted: 10:43 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I too, don't know what to say. My sincere condolences.
Posts: 301 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: CA
Member # 24849
| Posted: 10:54 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
no words... just support. I am so so so so so sorry for your loss (((Phoenix)))
FWW - 41
I'm big on personal responsibility. Own your shit. ALL OF IT.
Posts: 5826 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
Member # 31240
| Posted: 11:09 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
fBH (me) - 70, fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 9918 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 16921
| Posted: 11:20 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
There are no words, just hugs. My heart breaks for you!
WH - 48
BS (me) - 50
Son - 25
Son - 17
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Reconciling or at least trying. We have reconciled through the A, but he still doesn't get it when it comes to p
Posts: 4466 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 25341
| Posted: 11:32 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
Oh NO. NO. NO.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious DS, on top of everything else you are going through right now.
There are no words.
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
I am so sorry.
Please reach out here. Please. We all want to help any way possible.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...
Posts: 2541 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 39074
| Posted: 11:52 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
So very, very sorry! I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
Posts: 69 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Kentucky
Member # 31611
| Posted: 11:52 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
Words can not express...I am so so very sorry. Praying for strength for you.
married 44 years
DD Jan 16 2011
Posts: 356 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 30314
| Posted: 12:01 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I'm so sorry to hear this. You spoke of him with so much mother pride!
Please take care of yourself. Go to the hospital, if you need to...
lean on people here! We are all great listeners and huggers...
I'm so sorry!
his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
4 kiddos in mid 20's
Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...
Posts: 4687 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 37063
| Posted: 12:09 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
I've typed so many versions of this message but it just doesn't seem like enough or that anything conveys how much my heart is feeling for you. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. A loss no one should have to live through. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm so so sorry.
Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
Posts: 242 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 20152
| Posted: 12:45 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014|
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. This is no doubt a very, very deep loss for you; indeed, for all of us.
Please keep in touch with us as best as you can. We're all very, very concerned about you and your loved ones.
I am deeply sorry for your pain.
XBS - 42 and fabulous :D
Remarried happily in 2013
A relationship is built for two. But apparently, some bitches don't know how to count!
Posts: 602 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: The Chesapeake Bay
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