Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 2959
| Posted: 12:15 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I'm truly very sorry at your lost of loves ones.. my heart breaks for you, your daughters and father...prayers sent to you and your loved ones..
Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
Posts: 1593 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
Member # 30369
| Posted: 12:16 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Sending you all of the strength, mojo, and positive thoughts that I can muster... I've been thinking of you and your family many times every day.
Posts: 7244 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 13333
| Posted: 12:45 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I can imagine the overwhelming weight you are bearing. Remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Don't hesitate to accept the help so many are offering.
Hugs & Prayers.
Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses
Posts: 6462 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Member # 2027
| Posted: 12:49 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I think and pray for you and your family every day. In my thoughts throughout the day, in my own way, I am sending you peace and strength.
It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.
When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
OC born 2001
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)
Posts: 8027 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
Member # 31240
| Posted: 12:53 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
(((Phoenix1 & family)))
My heart goes out to you.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 10167 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 28877
| Posted: 12:55 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Thank you for taking the time to check in with us. After the services are over, this will hit you hard. Just know that when it does we are all here to hold you up. Peace and love to you and your family.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
Posts: 226 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: New England
Member # 25341
| Posted: 12:58 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Thanks so much for checking in, we are all thinking of you and the incredible difficulties you are going through.
I am glad that there is substantial support for you there through the army, and also that the rescue workers are taking your feelings into consideration.
You are so strong, you will make it through. I am so so very sorry for your pain. I remember how I felt when my suicidal then 18 yo DS went missing 2 years ago, it was unBEARable.
If there is any way anyone here can help, please don't hesitate to reach out.
Just know that everyone here at SI is behind you, sending you prayers, condolences and strength.
I am so sorry for the loss of your DS, on top of the other losses you have sustained. Sending you strength and peace.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options
Posts: 2595 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 31528
| Posted: 1:35 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Keeping you and your family in my heart.
Posts: 35415 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 22800
| Posted: 1:48 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Continued prayers for you and your family.
(((Phoenix & family)))
BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years
Posts: 1793 | Registered: Feb 2009
Member # 8795
| Posted: 1:58 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I am in awe of your strength through everything you are going through right now. I'm so sorry.... I know I can't even come close to imagining what you are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Posts: 2398 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Maryland
Member # 37776
| Posted: 2:19 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Phoenix we don't know each other & I don't read off-topic very often. I just want to say that this Mom's heart is bleeding for you. I too have teens & young adults & can't even imagine how you are managing, actually I do know why, you are obviously a very strong woman. I am so sorry for all of the losses you have had to deal with. If you ever need a cyber friend feel free to send me a PM. I will keep you and your loved ones in my thoughts and prayers. Jamie
BS early 50's Wh also early 50's. I am Jamie, Mom to 3 great teens/young adults. My WH and I have been together more than half of our lives and married 25+. We are in MC & going to give R our best shot, hoping and praying for a better 2013!
Posts: 112 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: USA
Member # 7685
| Posted: 5:03 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I have been thinking of you and praying for you every day. I am so, so sorry. I'm thankful that the Army is being so supportive and caring. (((HUGE HUGS))) sweetie.
Red Headed Imps 10 & 8
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
Posts: 2290 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
Member # 19258
| Posted: 5:49 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
I am so glad you posted an update. I know you're not OK but we've been worried about you around these parts.
Glad that you're at home and surrounded by people that love you and can support you.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8452 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 34210
| Posted: 8:54 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
my heart is breaking for you. I truly wish I had a magic wand that I could wave for you to make things right and happy for you again.
healing thoughts and prayers are going out to you and all that you love, and who love you and your family
(((PHOENIX and family)))))
eesh-- what an 'effing mess!!!
Posts: 502 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 14917
| Posted: 9:34 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
((((Phoenix)))))) and strength.
Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17
Posts: 1298 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:18 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
((((Phoenix, DDs, and father)))) Strength and love continuing your way, honey. We're all with you.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25532 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 18179
| Posted: 10:20 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
(((Phoenix1))) You & your family are in my thoughts every day. Continued strength to you and wishes for some small measure of peace.
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
Posts: 3882 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 5526
| Posted: 10:45 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
(((Phoenix1))) I am so very sorry for your losses. Prayers for you and your family.
Posts: 582 | Registered: Oct 2004
Member # 33699
| Posted: 10:57 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
It is so good to hear from you Phoenix. I was really worrying about you. Please take care of yourself ahead of others.
I am glad that the Army has done so much to give you comfort and to honor your DS. It shows that they have real honor and care for one of their own. I hoep they continue to support you through all that remains.
Please stay strong through everything but remember to take time out for your self.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Posts: 3425 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Member # 30498
| Posted: 11:06 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
You are in our thoughts constantly, what you continue to go through is just unimaginable. Your strength is astounding. Please know that you have people all over the world thinking of you and sending you love as you deal with this.
Married 25 years now divorced.
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?
Posts: 1096 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Adelaide, South Australia
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