Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 39169
| Posted: 6:37 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry for the pain for you and your family. Much love to you from me and the SI family.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller
Posts: 631 | Registered: May 2013
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Member # 41696
| Posted: 8:28 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
As so many others have said, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I found myself thinking of you this past Easter weekend. Because of your willingness to share your losses with us, I believe I now appreciate what I have even more...as you all too well know, things can change in the blink of an eye. You have changed lives.
As you prepare to bring your son home for the final time tomorrow, please know that you have hundreds, even thousands, of us invisibly standing beside you,thinking of you, holding you and your family in our hearts.
Posts: 16 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: US
Member # 32608
| Posted: 8:53 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
Phoenix, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family.
me - BH
'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'
Posts: 407 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Tejas
Member # 23890
| Posted: 9:55 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
Continued hugs and prayers for strength, Phoenix.
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Member # 18179
| Posted: 10:12 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment
Posts: 3860 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 12041
| Posted: 10:14 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
Thinking of you before I head off to bed Phoenix. Hoping you found even a small crumb of comfort today. We're here for you.
“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
Posts: 44283 | Registered: Sep 2006
Member # 12233
| Posted: 10:36 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
I am so sorry to hear this.
Be a lion, not a mowess...
The Cowardly Lion
Posts: 11294 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: A whole 'nother country
Member # 19258
| Posted: 10:51 PM, April 21st (Monday), 2014|
thinking of you
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8435 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 7685
| Posted: 1:10 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
Thinking of you all of the time. I am praying for you, your family and friends.
Red Headed Imps 10 & 8
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
Posts: 2290 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
Member # 16591
| Posted: 1:57 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
I find myself unable to sleep tonight. There is much on my mind. It mostly has to do with work and some corporate decisions that have been made that I need to lead my teams through.
And as I search for perspective; contemplate how to find balance and the right words - I find myself thinking of you and what you've shared with us here.
I feel humbled. I pray for you and your family. I pray for all who knew your son as they try to come terms with everything that's happened.
You are in my thoughts and prayers, Phoenix.
Posts: 1322 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: SoCal
Member # 28877
| Posted: 5:13 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
Wishing you strength for the days ahead. We are all here for you.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
Posts: 214 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: New England
Member # 38928
| Posted: 7:32 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
I have been sitting here writing a poem for DS's funeral card, and I would like to share what I've got.
Do not weep, do not cry
do not share with me your last goodbye.
For I am here, I am not gone,
I will be with you in your favorite song.
I will be with you when you stare at the sky,
on sunny days or in each twinkling star up high.
I will be with you on each mountain path you take,
near each stream or alpine lake.
I will be with you on hunting excursions,
sledding, four wheeling, or any diversion.
I will be with you in each flower or butterfly,
every creature in the woods as you walk by.
I will be with you when you are fishing,
when you blow out birthday candles and start wishing.
I will be with you as you walk through life,
in each joyful moment or through the inevitable strife.
You cannot hug me or stroke my hair,
but know in your heart that I am there.
I am with you now to lean on,
for I am here, I am not gone.
As I was finishing it, I received the news that bro and SIL have been found. I now have to share that heartbreaking news on the same day I welcome DS home. This is going to be a long day after a long sleepless night.
BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
Posts: 1029 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 30024
| Posted: 7:37 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
Your poem is beautiful. I am so sorry, Phoenix. I can't even imagine the burden's you are carrying and you are still functioning. (((Phoenix1)))
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 9513 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 33247
| Posted: 7:57 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
Thinking of you today Phoenix. The poem is beautiful. ((Phoenix))
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time
The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Posts: 934 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 37089
| Posted: 8:02 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
That is beautiful Phoenix. I am so sorry for all you are dealing with. You are an amazing strength and support to so many. We are here for you now with prayers and love.
Me:BW, 34/Him:BH, 34/ 3 boys, 5,8,12
4ddays, now Divorced
We are not in Kansas anymore
Posts: 274 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: NC
Member # 26970
| Posted: 8:22 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
Your poem is full of love..... to and from your son.
..I am so sad for you,
..prayers sent for you , your dear son, brother and SIL
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 4117 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 35846
| Posted: 8:28 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
A beautiful poem phoenix.
I hope being able to bring your B and SIL home will bring everyone some comfort.
(((hugs))) and strength to you.
You are in the prayers of us all. I hope you can feel it in some small way.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3792 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 31528
| Posted: 8:30 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
That was the most beautiful poem I have ever read.
Sending you hugs and strength. I'm keeping you in my prayers and heart.
Posts: 34491 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 20563
| Posted: 8:46 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
((Phoenix and family))
If there was a way to take a piece of your burden and carry it for you to give you a little break, I would.
Holding you and yours up in prayer.
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6519 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 25395
| Posted: 8:49 AM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014|
That poem is heartbreakingly sad and beautiful.
Sending you strength today.
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Posts: 1653 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
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