Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 40937
| Posted: 4:24 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
Phoenix my heart breaks for you as well. There are no words. Your poem is a beautiful tribute. I'm so glad you are finding the strength to get through this. You are an amazing person.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
Posts: 189 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
Member # 31528
| Posted: 4:29 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
Posts: 35142 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 34835
| Posted: 4:51 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
The poem was extremely moving. I couldn't get through it without tears. You did a beautiful job.
The hair stroking got to me as I do that with my children. I can understand that and the meaning behind it.
I'm sending you enormous hugs. I still think of you and how you are holding up.
Posts: 231 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 24261
| Posted: 6:54 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
((((Phoenix and family))))
DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??
I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)
Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!
Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 38141
| Posted: 8:56 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
My heart is breaking for you.
Your post of your son's tribute is beautiful.
I am so sorry for your loss and pain.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.
Posts: 457 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 38303
| Posted: 9:02 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
I am so very sorry for your loss.
I cannot imagine your heart at this moment....you are truly a strong person to be able to endure all of this.
I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**
Posts: 2071 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
Member # 38271
| Posted: 9:25 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
Thank you for sharing these so personal moments with us, especially that beautiful poem!
You are such a strong and graceful lady! I am in awe of you!
Much continued strength to you and your family in the coming days!
"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~
Posts: 481 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 6449
| Posted: 10:15 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
((((Phoenix1 & family)))) I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
Posts: 9710 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Member # 36853
| Posted: 10:44 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
Knight and I continue to pray for you and your family. Please remember to take care of yourself. We would so love to be able to offer you any help or comfort. Words are so inadequate.
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs
Posts: 1425 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Member # 25376
| Posted: 11:24 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
If it will give you any comfort, ask to keep a lock of his hair as a memento. There are lockets specially made to keep a lock of a loved one's hair, which can be worn.
Posts: 298 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: California Central Coast
Member # 35912
| Posted: 11:25 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014|
crying with you...
you are a beautiful mother
Posts: 485 | Registered: Jun 2012
Member # 34823
| Posted: 12:12 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
I have no words, Phoenix.
This is a tragedy. It is a sad ending to a sad story.
I am so, so sorry.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Posts: 8003 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 34210
| Posted: 5:01 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
sending more (((HUGS)))) and condolences Phoenix
I wish I knew you IRL, I would be SO honored to have a woman such as you to claim as a friend.
prayers to your whole family as you continue on this sad journey, may you somehow find peace in knowing that DS is with your BIL and SIL, and any other loved ones gone before.
eesh-- what an 'effing mess!!!
Posts: 502 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 17484
| Posted: 6:50 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
o (((Phoenix))) so beautiful.
Posts: 6572 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Member # 30079
| Posted: 8:23 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
Sending you strength through my tears.
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.
Posts: 1897 | Registered: Nov 2010
Member # 11224
| Posted: 8:34 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
Your words are powerful, beautiful and clearly carry your love for your son. I am so very sorry for your pain and sorrow.
My heart hurts so much for you, and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts for a long time.
Peace be with you, with your son, and with the rest of your family. I know they are as proud of you as you are of them.
Much love and warm, healing thoughts.
Posts: 1033 | Registered: Jul 2006
Member # 4956
| Posted: 10:13 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
My mind recalls some of my words in the Christmas poem I wrote when MIL died on Ts'giving. You use many of those same words. ".......with dignity, honor and grace; When they carried grandma to her final resting place.
YOU have such dignity, honor and grace yourself Phoenix. May your cherished memories of DS be a comfort to you in the days ahead. He was and is one handsome man with such a loving dedicated mother.
((((((Phoenix and family)))))
BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...
Posts: 3097 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
Member # 31722
| Posted: 11:11 AM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
I pray you are finding comfort with your family by your side today.
Your grace and strength shine thru during this unbelievable time.
I still have no words to take away your pain, but I hope that you feel our love, hugs and compassion.
We are all here for you, just let us know.
Posts: 1284 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 30346
| Posted: 3:19 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
((((phoenix))) just thinking about you…wishing you some peace.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4140 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Member # 12041
| Posted: 3:33 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014|
I'm thinking about you today. Sending you love and strength.
“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
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