Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 42012
| Posted: 5:23 PM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014|
Was thinking about you again today. Sending more thoughts and prayers your way.
25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13
Posts: 2179 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Member # 30143
| Posted: 5:38 PM, April 26th (Saturday), 2014|
Just saw this thread yesterday. My heart hurts for you and all of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Me (BW) (55), Him(SAWH) (58)
Married 22 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R
Posts: 1492 | Registered: Nov 2010
Member # 24824
| Posted: 8:37 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Thinking about you and your family today
What are you going to do when he leaves you?
Posts: 564 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Europe
Member # 34533
| Posted: 9:07 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Sending strength, thoughts and prayers to you and your family today.
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
Posts: 777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Member # 42092
| Posted: 10:02 AM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
((((Phoenix and family)))
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 34835
| Posted: 12:02 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Just wanted to know I'm thinking of you and your family.
I'm sending hugs and strength your way!
Posts: 231 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 7168
| Posted: 12:51 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
So much in life I don't understand.
My heart hurts for you in the loss if your SIL.
My heart breaks for the loss of your brother.
There is no description adequate for the feelings on the loss of your sweet son.
For how this has happened...for the magnitude in the timing - it's just simply too hard to comprehend. It feels insurmountable to just try to offer you any comfort. I know I am woefully inadequate.
I think of you often. I send you love and light every time. I'm so very sorry that any of this has happened.
Posts: 7682 | Registered: May 2005
Member # 28877
| Posted: 8:20 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
I hope that you and your family are getting the rest and nourishment you all need. We are all here for you when you are ready.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
Posts: 231 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: New England
Member # 38928
| Posted: 10:35 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Thank you all for the continued support. Made it thru the funeral and burial. Going thru all the military honors a second time was rough, though touching. Hearing taps played again and the rifle salute was tough. He is finally off display, which really bothered me, and is at rest. The cemetery is actually quite beautiful, surrounded by forest and he is facing the mountains. I am certain he would like it knowing wildlife wanders freely on the grounds.
Family has finally all left and I can decompress. All DS's soldier friends that were here all wanted to stop by and see DS's pride and joy that he routinely flaunted pics of...his jacked up '86 Ford F-150 mud truck. I let them start her up in his honor and they were crawling all over it checking out DS's mechanical work. It was quite touching and I know DS was looking down with pride.
We now have to wait for his personal effects to ship here and finish up with probate and military legal stuff. In the meantime, I am also working with nieces to plan bro and SIL's combined memorial services (taking place in two different states). I could be flying out again as early as next week for that. This is all really starting to wear on me, but it is good to finally have at least a little bit of breathing room again. Ex and I had a slight altercation at the reception because he was being an ass, but it was otherwise uneventful, especially with how much time we have been spending together. That will be a topic (rant) for another time in the D/S forum when I have the energy.
What an incredibly horrific month it has been...
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:53 PM, April 27th (Sunday)]
BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
Posts: 1173 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 22722
| Posted: 10:51 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Sending hugs to you Phoenix. I hope you weather these remaining tasks and find peace arriving day by day. ((((Phoenix))))
BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.
Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.
Posts: 1220 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Member # 19946
| Posted: 11:47 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
Sending you hugs, prayers, strength, and peace. I can't believe you are going through all this.
BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.
Posts: 5853 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Member # 37455
| Posted: 11:53 PM, April 27th (Sunday), 2014|
BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 2968 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 33226
| Posted: 12:01 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
((((Phoenix)))) You have been on my mind constantly, hon. Hope things go smoothly with planning the memorial services for your brother and sister-in-law.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25667 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 25341
| Posted: 12:29 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
Sending more strength. We are all thinking of you.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options
Posts: 2604 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 13813
| Posted: 12:48 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
(((Phoenix))) Praying for you.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
Posts: 2432 | Registered: Mar 2007
Member # 30024
| Posted: 7:54 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
Oh, sweetie, my heart just aches for you. You are constantly in my thoughts.
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 9792 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 27196
| Posted: 9:29 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
I simply can not believe the hell you are enduring. OMG sweetie, massive thoughts and prayers for your strength and healing. ((((((Phoenix1))))))
me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Posts: 7092 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Member # 33886
| Posted: 9:47 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
Thinking of you and praying for continued strength.
Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?
Posts: 6287 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Member # 25001
| Posted: 9:51 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)
Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 30314
| Posted: 10:01 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014|
his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.
Posts: 5230 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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