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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know what it's like when everyone is gone, the casserole stop coming, and you are able to decompress and process. Letting you know that you are not alone in those moments. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for a long time to come. Continued strength and courage sent your way.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 1822 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

Wishing you strength, and peace for the next bit. Please take a tiny piece of time for yourself.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7791 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do be vigilant, sweetie, because in my experience, we hold ourselves together while we need to, then when the immediate mega-stressors are done, our brains give us permission to fall apart. If you find that happening (trouble sleeping, constant sadness and weeping, loss of interest in normal activities), make sure you go see your doctor and ask for help. I know whereof I speak. Do it sooner rather than later, too. (((Phoenix)))


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7115 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix)))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3697 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have held it together for so long. I am not sure that there a lot of people who can go thru, what you have been thru, and still show such amazing grace.

Saw some more pics of DS. His smile just lights up a room!

Sending you hugs, prayers and strength for today. (there is so much more from where that comes from )

Take care, rest and the rest of the world be damned.

(((phoenix)))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1262 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Phoenix))))))) I have no words. I am so very sorry.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8313 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((Phoenix)))))))))

Sending light and love your way.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4834 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, April 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Phoenix)))))))

You are in my thoughts every single day.


Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 659 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I certainly have nothing to say other than to 'amen' what has already been said.

I do want to add that I went online to try to find out about the search at the first of your thread. And then, when your son was found, there was a picture of him online.

What an amazingly beautiful young man!

I will be thinking of you every day!

So many hugs to you!


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1850 | Registered: Apr 2012
notmeanymore
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending peace and strength


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think about you constantly and hope you are holding up as best as you can.

(((strength and hugs)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3766 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yep. still thinking about you. Hope you are doing as well as can be expected. Continued thoughts and prayers your way.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 1822 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers for today that you can start to decompress.

You, and your family will be in my thoughts every day for a long time. Sometimes people just stay with you.

I wish the right words would have come into my brain by now, but not yet.

So just sayin' what an amazing woman you are!!

(((Phoenix and family)))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1262 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
purplebreeze
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still thinking of you. Sending prayers for you and all your family. I think you have been doing tremendous and admire your strength and perseverance.


me 64
WH 65
married 44 years
DD Jan 16 2011

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Unreality
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix:

Just a short note to let you know I am still thinking of you and your family. Though we have never met you have touched my heart forever.

Peace and prayers being sent your way.


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be careful of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle to yourself. You are worth all of that care and more. Please keep reaching out for support, to vent, to cry. We may not be there in the flesh, but I hope you can feel us reaching out to you. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4557 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((HUGS)))).. I wish I could hold your hand, prop your feet up, make u a cup of coffee or tea or soup or tuck you in bed and let you sleep for two days.

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Kelany
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keeping you in my thoughts.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
hexed
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

thinking about you today. hope you're getting a chance to focus on you and decompress a little.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart just seems to get heavier. Was just told by my nieces that bro and SIL's memorial service is scheduled for this Saturday in WA....Saturday would have been DS's 21st birthday. I am planning to fly there and back in the same day (it's a 3.25 hr flt), and hopefully drive out to see the memorial the soldiers constructed at the site in the mountains where he was found. I want to leave 21 red roses there for his birthday. It is going to be yet another horrific day of emotional agony. It just seems to never end...

ETA: Just chatted with DS's BF. He is going to meet me in WA to go to bro's memorial and take me to DS's memorial in the mountains. Because I did not walk to the spot where DS was found I don't know exactly where it is because it is a ways off a regular trail in thick woods, and his BF does.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 1:58 AM, April 30th (Wednesday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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