Topic: Now DS is missing...
Member # 38562
| Posted: 11:29 PM, April 29th (Tuesday), 2014|
It will be over soon, Phoenix, but until then we are holding you as close as we can.
I have never known anyone to have to endure what you have. Your endurance (and your grace, as seen from out here) is an inspiration I will never forget.
It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal
Posts: 263 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 25341
| Posted: 6:41 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
It is good for both of you that DS BF will be taking you around.
Sending more hugs and strength, this is so much to go through.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...
Posts: 2541 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 26133
| Posted: 7:30 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Your son sounds very special.
As do you.
I am terribly sorry for your loss.
Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.
Posts: 5048 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Member # 11224
| Posted: 7:37 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Continued prayers for you, Phoenix. I am so glad your son's BF is there for you in your time of need. I will keep you in my thoughts as you navigate these next difficult days.
Posts: 1015 | Registered: Jul 2006
Member # 42012
| Posted: 7:37 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
my heart keeps breaking for you.
25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13
Posts: 1917 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Member # 21101
| Posted: 7:39 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Phoenix, I keep asking myself how much can one woman take, and you keep showing me more.
I pray that visiting his memorial this weekend brings you peace, and strength.
Keeping you in my thoughts, and prayers.
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy
Posts: 8100 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 25001
| Posted: 8:14 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)
Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 19258
| Posted: 9:04 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am so glad your DS's friends will be there to support you.
Please think about staying one night. That's 6.5 hours of travel and lots of driving. You must already be so exhausted.
I can't imagine that your heart can feel lighter for a long time. I'm so sorry its getting heavier. I wish that we could all take just a bit of your sorrow so you could feel a bit better.
My thoughts continue to be with you and I will be even more on Saturday.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8435 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 30369
| Posted: 9:24 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Posts: 6580 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:17 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
(((((Phoenix))))) Holding you in my thoughts and continuing to send you strength and peace.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 24789 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 42092
| Posted: 10:35 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
I am so glad your DS's BF will go with you. I can't imagine how hard that will be for you, but also, what a wonderful way to get some bit of closure and come closer to peace to be there with your offering on his birthday.
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4054 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 33128
| Posted: 11:29 AM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Always thinking of you and your family but mostly of you! As a mother I feel your pain and heart ache. I wish I could hold you and let you cry as long as needed.
I weep for you and what is/has been your world lately. Know we are all here, praying, grieving with you, and will also be your rock!!!!
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!
Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 32789
| Posted: 1:39 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
What a beautiful tribute for your son's 21st birthday.
I am so sorry for your loss and my heart and thoughts go out to you often throughout the day.
Take care, (((Phoenix)))
BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
Posts: 1364 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 31722
| Posted: 3:06 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Sending prayers to you for today.
Is there any way you can stay over just Sat. night? If you fly into Bellingham you have at least one hr drive to site for DB and DBSIL, if it's Sea-Tac it's going on 2 hrs! It's also probably close to 3-4 hrs to then go to your DS's site, which would make it close to 5-6 hrs back to the airport!!!! Oh sweet Phoenix, please see if you can re-do the travel plans.
You are such a strong woman. I honestly do not know almost anybody who could/would endure all that you have. Truly an inspiration to us all!!
Posts: 1275 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 31240
| Posted: 4:19 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
fBH (me) - 70, fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 9947 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 37455
| Posted: 5:46 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
you are in my prayers, sending strength.
BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 2686 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 27605
| Posted: 6:38 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
You have been in my prayers from the beginning. May you feel all the love. I am so sorry
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.
Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Texas
Member # 31528
| Posted: 7:55 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
Keeping you in my thoughts and heart.
Posts: 34491 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 18179
| Posted: 10:10 PM, April 30th (Wednesday), 2014|
(((Phoenix1))) Sending you more hugs, love, & strength. Sounds like your DS had some top-quality friends.
"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment
Posts: 3860 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 36134
| Posted: 7:16 AM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014|
Sending you strength, love and peace.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Posts: 4996 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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