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User Topic: Now DS is missing...
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thoughts and prayers are with you.

(((Phoenix1 & son)))


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2222 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Please1983
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you.


BS me 30
WS him 31 (thankyou1981)
OW 19 year old at his work
Together 9 years
3 boys. 4, 3 and baby.
D-day 20 aug 2011

Posts: 198 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: UK
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix & DS)))


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9844 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like everyone, my words fail so I will send you my thoughts.

We are ALL behind you, Phoenix. We are all holding you.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

Posts: 373 | Registered: Feb 2013
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying!!!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
sad12008
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix1)))

There just aren't words, but I want you to know you're in my thoughts and I'm hoping you get good news soon.


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

Posts: 3893 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((phoenix)))

Praying and praying.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7827 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my God - I am so sorry. There are no words. I just hope and pray with all my heart for you, DS, and your whole family.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2848 | Registered: Jan 2011
Stay_Or_Go
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how devastated you must be. Praying for your dear son's safe return.

Posts: 140 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pennsylvania
wheredoigo
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, no, no, no, no….he has to be safe! I had to read your topic title three times to read it correctly. After everything you've been through! May it be just his way of needing a break and as my retired military FIL says "going off the radar" for a bit. I wish there was more we could do for you than just wait and read. Sending prayers for his safety. Hope he contacts someone soon. We will be here when you get news and are ready to post again. ((((Phoenix)))


1st marriage BS to xSAWH (34)
WW-2nd marriage (me) 33 to BS(Jt8d) 35
It's important to heal yourself in a healthy way from all hurt or it will hurt you and the ones you love more than the original hurt before.

Posts: 217 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Midwest
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:20 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have been at the command post as soon as we arrived in WA. Just left around midnight after everyone else left for the night. Sat in the car and cried knowing he is out there another night alone. The Army is contributing resources and that has helped the manpower.

As some have speculated, no he did not just go dark. His motorcycle was found today along with his helmet, neatly parked with plenty of fuel left in the tank to get him back to the base when he was done. Once they found the bike they brought in dogs. The dogs followed his scent for about an hour then lost it. He is an AVID runner, and putting in 15 miles is just a warm up for him. The last cell ping came in around 3 in the morning last night, and his cell is now dead. Unfortunately, that ping had an accuracy of about a 7-mile radius, which is a lot of ground. Another round of dogs are being brought out tomorrow morning before people move into the area, then search teams will move in at 9. Dozens are Army soldiers are going to be here tomorrow to supplement the volunteer searchers. They have been using thermal cameras on a plane with no results and hope to bring in a helo tomorrow. Weather may be problematic is it is supposed to rain tomorrow.

I am sick to my stomach with worry and heartache. Can't eat, can't sleep. Been up since Saturday at 2:00 a.m. Haven't eaten in two days as it makes me physically ill. Feel totally helpless, just as I have been feeling the past three weeks with bro and SIL. If the media puts two and two together they will be all over this and that circus will begin again. My brain is just all over the place.

I am on the edge right now. My father is a wreck. We are all just having trouble wrapping our brains around this. I am at my limit but trying to hold it together for my girls. This just can't be happening. I feel like I have been in a living nightmare for almost a month now, and I can't wake up. I.JUST.CAN'T.TAKE.ANY.MORE!!! My baby is out there!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 3:42 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix,

Knight and I are praying specifically for your DS to be somewhere safe, waiting to be found; that he is being comforted and ministered to by angels. We are praying for the right searchers and rescuers to be guided to just the right place for his benefit. We are praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. That you will be reunited with your son soon and your relationship will be strengthened because of this trial.

I wish we could all be there in person helping to search and bring your baby back to you safe and sound.

I'm here. I've been thinking and praying for y'all all night.

(((Phoenix)))


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1503 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^^this. Praying this for you as well.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish there was something I could do for you . Sending all my love and strength.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix and family))))


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: GA
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix)))))
Prayers and MOJO headed your way.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8744 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying he's found today and is ok. Hugs to you at this trying time, too.


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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sunandmoon
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am praying for you and your son. I am so very sorry Phoenix.

sunandmoon


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((phoenix))

there really are just no words.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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TrustNoOne
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I continue to hold you up in prayer; covering you and your son with all the blessings possible.

As a Mother, my heart absolutely aches for you.


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