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User Topic: Now DS is missing...
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had written a poem for bro before DS passed that I had planned to post in his FB wall after either they (bro and SIL) were finally found or formally pronounced. With his services now over, I will be posting it on his wall, and I wanted to share with you as I did with my poem to DS. Poems are a way for me to express feelings. (SIL's extensive family is posting enough tributes for her so I don't need to chime in there.)

***

My heart is heavy with the loss of my big brother, my friend,
and time is needed for the hole in my heart to begin to mend.

As with Scott, you left me far too soon, too fast,
but Mom’s loving embrace is now holding you at long last.

Both my brothers are together once again,
in a place I do not yet dwell, but will in the end.

You were so much to so many and our sorrow is great,
but having had you in our lives leaves us in a richer state.

I will miss you more than most will possibly know,
the depth of our sibling bond stronger than what was allowed to show.

You can now fish to your heart’s desire and hike those mountains at will,
your adventures will continue simply because you cannot stand still.

Life will go on for the rest of us, as it inevitably does when loved ones pass,
but I am alone without either you or Scott to lovingly harass.

Little sisters do that, to remind you of my sibling role,
and I will one day be with you both, which will make my heart whole.

Just don’t expect me too soon my family, my loved ones, my friends,
as I still have many life adventures before I reach my own mortal end.

I will miss you, your smile, your laughter, your zest for life,
and I will never forget what you did for me in my moments of strife.

You will stay firmly lodged in my heart forever though you are gone,
now go grab your rod and your flies, and startle us all from above with a loud “Fish on!”

***

Bro was an expert when it came to fishing, and loved nothing more than fishing or hiking in the mountains with DS. That was their "thing." And bro and I helped each other through the loss of our other brother some 29 years ago (also in a tragic accident) as well as our mother (6 years ago). He was my rock that I could always count on to be there for me...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing that.

My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 1951 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))

Your poem for your brother is touching and beautiful.

You remain in my thoughts every day. Sending you more strength.

((((Phoenix))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2548 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((Phoenix))))))))

Lovely tribute to your big brother.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

You are very gifted with your ability to write poetry. What a touching tribute.


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..(((((((((Phoenix1)))))))))

..your poem is 'perfect'..

..thinking of you.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful (((Phoenix)))

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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, May 9th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your poems are so beautiful. Your feelings come thru.

I am sending you prayers and hugs for today.

I wish we could help take some of the pain, and burden, from you. We would all do it in a heart beat.

You have shown the world such grace and strength thru these tragedies.

What an amazing woman you are.

sending strength.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful poem, Phoenix. Thank you for sharing.

I’ll be thinking of you on your Mothers Day. I hope you can draw some solace from your DDs. Your DS will be with you in spirit. Sending love and strength to you from this side of the world.

(((((Phoenix1))))


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix your poems are beautiful and so touching. I hope you are finding some happiness in your motorcycle class today. Thinking about you this weekend.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are in my thoughts this weekend. Sending you comfort and peace. ((((Phoenix))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers and hugs for today.

Hope you had a great time with DD's, and I know DS is looking down and smiling, saying "Way to go Mom! "

I hope you are able to catch your breath every now and then.

Sending strength.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just more {{{hugs}}}.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, May 10th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix1)))


Find peace. Or sleep on it.

Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 4:51 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't often come on the off topic thread, so didn't see this until today. What an unbelievably painful time for you. I can't even begin to imagine. Thinking of you here across the Pond.

(((((Phoenix)))))


Me 44 (BS)
Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
Children - two, mine from my previous marriage
Final straw 6/6/14

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies


Posts: 191 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix-
I have been away for about a month. I was wondering if your brother and sil had been found so I checked in and was shocked to find this thread.

Like others have mentioned I feel like my own words can do little to comfort you but please know that you and your family are on our minds and in our warmest, comforting thoughts.

I am so sorry for all of your losses. I'm sorry for all the idiotic, disrespectful things you have had to deal with during this time.

I hope your daughters inherit your strength and grace. Your end of summer trip sounds like a fabulous idea.

Many hugs and much love to you, your girls, your father, and your DS's close friends.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


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devasted30
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Phoenix1))))) I know today, much like everyday, is going to be difficult for you. We are thinking about you and holding you in our thoughts and prayers. My wish for you on Mothers Day is that you find a little joy and peace.

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a beautiful poem Phoenix. Thank you so much for opening your heart and sharing with us. Sending you love and wishing you will find peace on this day and the next. (((Phoenix)))


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending light, love, strength, and peace.

More hugs.
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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