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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you this Mother's Day, Phoenix. Never doubt that you are an amazing mom, and your girls and DS are lucky to have you!

(((((Phoenix)))))


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 914 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
carnelian
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))


What are you going to do when he leaves you?

Posts: 564 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Europe
harry&george
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you and sending you hugs!


ME: FBW 38
3 gorgeous kids
Divorced!!!

Posts: 120 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Australia
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone.

A truly bittersweet day. Enjoyed it with my DDs, but miss my DS something awful. DD22 left me flowers at work on Friday, secretly, with a card from DS saying "I will always love you, mom!" Turned me into a blubbering mess, as I am right now just thinking about it. So incredibly sweet of her. They also signed his name in their card to me.

The girls and I successfully passed our motorcycle training, and DS was with me as I did use his helmet and trained/tested on a bike just like his. His bike will be here within the month and I plan to keep practicing on it to become proficient, just as he and I planned to do when he was to come home in July. Doing this has become a tribute to him now because of his passion for it. I want to live up to our plans and make him proud.

This has been a tough start to the month with his birthday and Mother's Day so close, but I made it thru. My heart is still so heavy and sad.

More military stuff and attorney stuff to deal with this week, as well as DD17's graduation. *sigh*

Happy Mother's Day to all of you that have provided me such incredible support these past horrific weeks!

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 9:07 PM, May 11th (Sunday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1189 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

I still can't come up with any words. Just know I'm holding you in my thoughts.


Posts: 11743 | Registered: Mar 2008
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is not surprising to "see" you have amazingly sweet DDs. They have one of the best examples I have come to know, virtual or not.

There was no doubt you would pass that test. DS was with you all the way. What a great tribute to him for you to keep your plans.

I cannot imagine how heavy your heart must have been today, but I do want to send my sincere "Happy Mothers Day" to you.

Sending prayers and hugs to you today.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't been on here much in the last few months and just today read up on everything. I live about 100 miles from the mudslide and have listened and watched a lot of the coverage here. I've seen the interviews and from your descriptions, read about your brother and SIL, and your son.

I'm so very sorry for all your losses with family. I'm thinking of you and sending hugs.

I know you don't know me, but if you need any help, please let me know.


Updated 2014:
BS-me 41
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1379 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, May 11th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been thinking about you a lot today Phoenix1. Sending hugs and love.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17837 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
yoyojo
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you. (((Phoenix)))


Me-BS
H - WS
My beautiful kids, 3 innocent victims 1,4,& 5

Posts: 479 | Registered: Aug 2006
gulliblelass
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix, just wanted to wish you belated Mother's Day wishes. I'm so glad that your day went well and you went ahead with the motorbike course. I believe truly that your darling DS was with you.

Your last few posts have been so strong, amazing for a woman that has been through so much in such a short time. I truly admire you along with everyone else, your are a true inspiration.

I'm glad that you are going to continue with your plans to keep riding DS's bike and I think that is a great tribute to him. Your poems for both him and your brother are truly beautiful and heartfelt and brought tears to my eyes.

I hope your daughter gets through her graduation after everything she has been through too. I can't believe the sadness you and your family have had to endure.

Sending you much love and keeping you in my prayers. I wish there was more we could do for you. God Bless you Phoenix xxx

[This message edited by gulliblelass at 10:02 AM, May 12th (Monday)]


WH 49
Me 44

3 beautiful children

Married 14 years together 17

DD1 03/06
DD2 06/07

In R and going well, hoping everyday that this is the last time otherwise I'm out of here


Posts: 432 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: Europe
jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Phoenix)))

You are the epitome of strength and grace under tremendous burdens. I pray for your continued strength as well as comfort and peace everyday.


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

Posts: 980 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Indiana
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, May 12th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers and hugs to you for today.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
hexed
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so impressed you passed your class. I've always wanted to learn but I'm so scared to do it!

((phoenix))

you are are amazing and it seems like your daughters are just like you.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8459 | Registered: Apr 2008
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, May 13th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still thinking of you Phoenix. Congrats to you and your girls for passing the test. That's quite a tribute.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2189 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, May 14th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are one truly incredible woman. You have demonstrated amazing strength, grace, and dignity through the most difficult series of losses imaginable. I wish you continued strength and eventual peace. Some time away later in the summer sounds much needed and deserved.

I think it is fantastic that you and your DDs went ahead and took the motorcycle class. Good for you! I can only imagine your DS is smiling down on you from heaven.

Sending you positive thoughts and many many prayers.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 710 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending your hugs and prayers for today.

Hope you are beginning to be able to take a deep breath now and then.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge ((HUGS)) to you


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6809 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having some incredibly rough days. The legal turmoil isn't any better, and I am having to make some tough emotional decisions that are weighing very heavily on me. It just feels like the ton of bricks on my back don't seem to get any lighter. And, unfortunately, since my "trust" ability was destroyed by ex, I don't feel comfortable discussing any of this with anyone.

Went on a long bicycle ride last night to try to clear my mind. Rode to fatigue. Was hoping that would help, and it did for a short time, but it ultimately just made me tired and still emotionally miserable. Discussed one decision aspect with my father and SIL's family to get their thoughts and support on my actions (which they fully support), but it still doesn't make taking the steps any easier emotionally.

It is boiling down to "doing what is morally right vs. doing the right thing." May seem like semantics, but there IS a difference, and I am smack dab in the middle on a couple of different fronts, with the ultimate decisions resting solely with me.

Wish just one of those bricks on my back would get lifted off...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1189 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Phoenix))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2606 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wish just one of those bricks on my back would get lifted off...

Wishing that for you as well... big time. Thinking of you.

(((((Phoenix)))))


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