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User Topic: Did anyone else feel ugly around the stbx?
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh dear isn't are beautiful. He is JACKED! We all go through this at first. He is bat shit crazy and thinks he is "in love". Trust isn't you. Do not turn it around on yourself because you are wasting your time with that.

BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

RyeBread you just described the Dementors from the Harry Potter series...

I haven't read the series. Heard it was good though

Call me nuts but I really believe that selfishness and deceipt darken a persons soul and it preceeds them anywhere they go. Almost like their aura is a plague that destroys any good that might be in the area. Wherever my WW goes drama and destruction follow. I found it better to avoid it than confront it because it only drags you down with it. Be like water, it goes around the rock to get to it's destination.

Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


They ALWAYS "affair down".

Always. Mine did.

Yours did, too.

Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't feel ugly - I felt stupid, fooled, humiliated. Ugly on the inside.

DDOW was the ugliest late 30s Indian woman I've ever seen. She looked like a man. To say I was insulted was an understatement.

OWUmpteen was 24 and beautiful in the way we all were at that age, but has no spark. No wit, no intellect, no charm. She's a hipster redneck. It is kind of hilarious given he has always gone for strong, bold, feisty, smart, exciting women.

I'm not traditionally beautiful, Eastern European mixed with who knows what - unusual in a country of mousy, blue eyed white bread crust cut off anglos. I have vitiligo over 80% of my body and I've had 2 children. But dayum do I own it. I like not being everyone's cup of tea. I like being an acquired taste. I like men who lean towards the quirky, intellectual side. My looks work for me in that regard.

Now? I dress down on the rare occasion that I have to see him. I don't want to trigger any nostalgia for him. I am inherently foxy but it's easy to tone that down when you're cringing in someone's presence.

I did feel uncomfortable in my own skin in that M but that had nothing to do with my looks and everything to do with how I had allowed/was allowing this parasite to treat me.

Let's face it - if his fidelity was based on my looks we were never going to reach 'till death do us part'. No matter how beautiful an 80 year old I'll be if looks was the crux of it he was never going to be around to appreciate it.

t/j KLove - I have 2 babies naturally (no drugs - I'm not a hippy, I have a needle phobia). Shut that shit down - that is ALL about him. My little map of Tassie (Google it ) is more glorious now than it ever was before. I appreciate her far more than I ever did before. She's amazing and capable of amazing things. Well beyond childbirth. Get those terrible thoughts he planted out of your head. Right now. End t/j

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh KLove,
sweetie there is nothing wrong with your hoohoo. It was him and his screwed up ways. Please don't feel that way. You were blessed with the hoohoo to have beautiful kids but it is also more than that. One day I hope you get to have it happen... You will be doing the back stroke!.....

I do know I am beautiful inside and out, but when I am around him I feel less than.. if that makes sense.

BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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